There's no rational difference between paying a girl $50 for sex and buying her dinner and drinks, but women are not rational creatures when it comes to attraction (then again, men aren't, either). This is another manifestation of the simple truth that life is not "fair."
There is an upside, though; if you learn to make seemingly unfair conventions work FOR you, you will find that life actually FAVORS you. There are many people that have the practical intelligence necessary to get the best of ANY situation and are STILL awarded by society, even if they don't play "fair." The biggest roadblock for most people is accepting social conventions as a code of ethics, rather than a personal or philosophical code. This is a trap, because social conventions are DESIGNED to make life unfair for those that follow them.
The lawyer in this case acted way improperly and seems like he had it coming to him anyway. However, there are lots of guys that have legally spent well over $200 on a girl in the hopes that she would put out. What they fail to realize is that not only is this is the path of least resistance, it's also the path of least effectiveness.
If you appeal to a girl's LOGIC, you will wind up paying with no guarantee of sex. If you appeal to a girl's EMOTION, you will get sex for free. Or, SHE might even be paying YOU by buying YOU drinks, cab rides, etc. And it doesn't stop there--if you can find a way to make her feel good about herself, you can even break up with her and have her DEFEND you instead of hating you. Such is the power of social intelligence.
I'm a fairly honest guy, and I generally don't feel good about manipulating people. But I recognize that this is the way the world works, and knowing this is enough to stop me from complaining that the world isn't "fair." It IS fair, in that if you understand how society works you can manipulate it to your advantage. But JUSTICE is simply a made-up term; there is no natural justice is the world.
There are a lot of beloved, wildly successful men that in truth have no more integrity than a common criminal. They see other people as MEANS and not ENDS. Yet, they are beloved because they appeal to people's emotions--they make people FEEL GOOD. This is what allows their transgressions to be overlooked. By contrast, other decent people are REVILED by society because they make others feel BAD or UNCOMFORTABLE. This is why Asperger's is such a grave problem; a person with Asperger's is often unfairly PUNISHED by society because of the difficulty they have connecting with others.
This post went in a few different directions, but the point is: You don't HAVE to pay for sex. You don't HAVE to take girls out to fancy restaurants and buy them gifts and promise exclusivity to them. There's nothing wrong with doing these things if you truly believe your girlfriend deserves it, but there is no reason to do these things for a stranger. Learn how to appeal to emotions and you will never go hungry.
