You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Please say "just kidding".
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Like I said, nothing is worth risking your soul over. The good Lord doesn't give you a pass when you lust after a fat woman. Lust after any woman is a sin. I kind of figured this out the hard way. If there was an imaginary exception for fat woman, then I'd jump at it, but that does not exist and is moral fantasy. Otherwise it would say, if you look at any woman to lust after her, except BBW White fat women, you've commit adultery in your heart, which unfortunately it does not, so that's wrong too. I think maybe the Lord will go easier on that type of sin because she's fat...but I would be mistaken since God is not a respector of persons in such matters. Pure hearts see God.