"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What do you say if a woman asks what you do...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
phenomenom
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Pick up some hobbies man, there's millions of them.
nismo-4
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I'm about to be Captain Obvious with this solution. Find a cool goddamn hobby!
suavesuave
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Accension
Senior Don Juan
You can't lie about this stuff if you want anything besides a ONS.
If you care about it, so will she.
Will a woman ever tell you that without her tan, hair style, boob job/wonder bra, makeup and high heels that she isn't that hot?! no she is playing on your fantasies with those things and you should do the same.
If you don't have a job tell her that you are in business (its not really a lie because your business is looking for a job but she doesn't have to know it, she just won't weed you out so fast because you don't have a job).
If she asks for your hobbies tell her that your favourite hobby is talking to really pretty women and give her a wink or if you aren't that smooth tell her that you skydive (chicks are always impress with that) but that could backfire if she wants to jump with you and you end up peeing in your pants while screaming like a girl.
The whole point is to create a fantasy in her mind that she would want to sleep with you instead of giving her a reason not too.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
dont you have any social circle then??
why dont you have a job , recent graduate?
if you lie you will get caught out.....
Cockynfunny
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Like kung fu movies? learn martial arts.
What do you do everyday with no job an no hobbies?
todays_news
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Non-answer answer.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You need to turn this around to be a positive thing, see:
Instead of saying "I don't have a job" say "I'm looking for a job" or instead of "I don't have hobbies" say "I'm learning to [insert new hobby here]". You just have to be more energetic and positive about stuff.
Or say you fly emergency rescue helicopters to transport radioactive waste.
Or that your a secret agent and cant discuss your hobbies in this public place and blame her for almost blowing your cover.
The only bad answer is a true answer. Dont answer questions.
And at that point I take one of two paths:
1) If the chick is a HB9 or HB10, I tell her I'm unemployed.
2) If the chick is a 6, 7 or a HB8, I tell her I'm a "Leaf Vegetable Sanitation Technician"
But if they ask you "What do you do?" later on, they usually want to get to know you better. If they see you as a potential partner, they want to know if you have your sh!t together. They also want to see if you'll bring excitement into their lives with any hobbies and interests you may have.
And that's when you tell them you're a "Professional Condom Tester"
iliketennis
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.