"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What do you say if a girl asks how you rate her out of 10

MaudGrimes

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I was in a bar the other day with a babe from work - I had not thought she would have been interested purely because she knows I've messed around with a few other girls from there (even though I know she was attracted to me:D). We're getting drunk together until about 4.30am and we're talking about my dating life... I must have let slip about how I rate women (as I said, I was drunk) and she then asks, looking me square in the eye:

"so what do you rate me?"

What do you guys think is a good response to a girl who asks this of you!?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bigneil

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Well a photo would help. Or maybe a description.

However, I recently came to understand why a man should make his woman feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. That is because, if he's really the man, he can have any woman, so who else would he choose? Now, making her feel it and saying it are two different things.
 

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u probably already know this but "what do you rate me" is a sign of interest

When I get that I usually dismiss the comment with something like "Your female mind wouldn't understand my complicated system *wink*"

If she keeps pressuring, give her an irrelevant quantifier. "On a scale from 1 to 10," you're a Selena Gomez (I said to a HB7 who was a hotter Selena clone)
 

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I'm not chasing this particular girl as she's engaged and I don't need that headache - the question was more a hypothetical one; in a situation where the woman is attractive what do you think is a good answer?
 

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"I rate you A for Awesome"...?

Then again if you're not interested and she's really hot why not pay her a compliment.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mike32ct

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While I don't usually recommend back-pedaling, you could here...

Mike: Yeah we use this 10 scale. Blah blah blah.

HB: How would I rate from 1 to 10?

Mike: Well let me put it this way... Some guys, including most of my friends use the 10 scale, but honestly, I prefer the Binary Scale myself.

HB: How does it work?

Mike: It's simple. She's either a YES or a NO.

HB: What would I be? <seeking approval>

Mike: Hmmm <Looking at her and building suspense>

Mike: I'd give you a YES. <Slight flirty grin>
 

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She's hitting on you. The thing is, do you like her?

If I didn't like her, I'd give an honest comment, and just tell her i didn't like her in that way.
 

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I once got asked this and said a 6. Obviously there was interest for her to ask and it actually increased her interest level! By saying she was average made her want me more.
 

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Haha. I clicked on this thread because I use that line as an opener at bars.
After the girl responds to it sometimes they ask me how I rate them. i say "girl you're ugly" if shes a hb8+. If she's a hb6 or 7 I'll say "girl I'd bag you, I'm sorry but I would" (with a big grin).
Whatever you do, don't tell them their number.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd put my hand on her shoulder, look at her sympathetically and say, "It's what's on the inside that counts" or "Don't worry, it's personality that counts".

Or if I'm getting on well with her and feel some chemistry, I'll tell her "It's hard to judge with your clothes on".

Whenever a girl fishes for compliments, it's always best to string her along and avoid giving a real answer. Keep her guessing and keep things playful.
 

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if you want to be funny/silly and blow off her question in a carefree way: 0

if you want to be a real ****/**** with her head/hurt her feelings: give her a number that sounds legit--like a 7.5, so she doesnt think you're being funny by saying 0, or being flirty by saying 10, but she thinks you actually view her as that. as hilarious as her reaction would be to me, i probably wouldn't say this or suggest anyone else say it

just imagine that though

her: haha so what do you rate me? :) (expecting you to compliment her and say 10 or be a wise guy and say 0)

you: ahh. 7.5 i guess

her: oh..

her: (to herself) wait is he serious? he thinks i'm a 7? wait wtf??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A 7.5 is a pretty good rating. She should have no complaint with that, unless she's like a top model or has a huge ego. I would only give super hot girls an 8 or more.
 

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It honestly is not worth the potential fvck up if you ACTUALLY rate her what you think. Some, hell most, girls are very sensitive to their looks. Just say she's a zero and give her a sly grin. Raises her IL without making things awkward.
 

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Yeah, but what if an ugly girl asks you this and you don't want to hurt her feelings?

Maybe they know better than to ask lol.
 

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If she's beautiful I will just give her lower than 5, so that she will be curious and talk to me more.. lol..
 

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Trick question, the answers always 10. Unless you're negging her then, i'd say a 1 and make a joke out of it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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