"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hello everyone , my name is David.

I need help with a girl. I don't really know if she likes me or not.
She claims to be in love with another guy for 4 months now.
I "noticed" her and started talking to her 3 weeks ago.

Now people keep saying she likes me and the other dude.
I've grown fond of this girl and i think she likes me too.

She is always flirting with me and i with her (calling me gay, all those **** tests).
She said she liked me 2 times now but i cant say if she's joking or not.
She holds eye contact very often.
We "fight" alot.
There was even a strange moment where she told me she loved me, and i thought she was joking because she was supposed to like the other guy, but then she started crying and saying that i needed to believe in her, that she really wanted me. I was... perplexed? I think that's the word, yes.
Then she told me to leave her and that she was joking. That she faked all that. I don't really believe that.

What do you guys think? Does she like me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NorwegianDJ said:
Whatever. Go for her and 3 other girls.
Getting a little impersonal with your advice there, bud.

Yeah man. What you're going to realize in a few months time, if you have the maturity to pursue other girls, is that you don't have these elaborate melodramas with girls anymore. They tend to fall into certain, more simple patterns, and your questions become far less girl-specific. It's more like "I've started to do this, and it's hurting me with girls." and you realize how to change your methods.

What you're asking us is, "I have no system. How can I use one of your systems to flip this relationship, which has had this long, emotionally charged history?"

Long story short, my system won't work for you. You need to try for enough girls to make your own.

Reading so much about this one girl made me feel that you are extending this relationship beyond the length it should have been. There was a time to kiss her. And there is a time to leave her. If you need closure, try to kiss her. If you're ready to get to work, leave her. There are no other options.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Getting a little impersonal with your advice there, bud.

Yeah man. What you're going to realize in a few months time, if you have the maturity to pursue other girls, is that you don't have these elaborate melodramas with girls anymore. They tend to fall into certain, more simple patterns, and your questions become far less girl-specific. It's more like "I've started to do this, and it's hurting me with girls." and you realize how to change your methods.

What you're asking us is, "I have no system. How can I use one of your systems to flip this relationship, which has had this long, emotionally charged history?"

Long story short, my system won't work for you. You need to try for enough girls to make your own.

Reading so much about this one girl made me feel that you are extending this relationship beyond the length it should have been. There was a time to kiss her. And there is a time to leave her. If you need closure, try to kiss her. If you're ready to get to work, leave her. There are no other options.

I'm not asking for any "system". I just need to know if she's into me.
About the kiss thing. There was time once yes but have in mind that she likes the other dude.

Again, i'm not begging for any miracle line or technique from your part, i just want to know if with all these she liking the other dude jazz if i step up will she take me?

Sorry if i don't make much sense.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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USeeMe said:
I'm not asking for any "system". I just need to know if she's into me.
About the kiss thing. There was time once yes but have in mind that she likes the other dude.

Again, i'm not begging for any miracle line or technique from your part, i just want to know if with all these she liking the other dude jazz if i step up will she take me?

Sorry if i don't make much sense.
How should I know what she's going to do? And you don't know what she's going to do because you don't have a system.

Kiss her if you have balls. Move on if you don't. Those are the only two options.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Getting a little impersonal with your advice there, bud.
It gets irritating when 1/3 of the topics here are basically this question. Go ahead, read through the last page and "There's this girl..." will come up more times than any other topic I guarantee.

It gets more irritating when 9/10 of those people do nothing and fail from inaction.

It gets excessive when their next and possibly last topic is "There's this girl..."

And it makes me wanna punch someone in the liver when they expect unique advice. The same exact story has popped up more times then any of us can remember from nearly everyone on this forum, the people it comes from aren't likely to use the advice and will probably leave soon anyway. Writing unique advice for every person contrary to them actually needing it gets repetitive and a little depressing.
 

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Jack Wealthy said:
And it makes me wanna punch someone in the liver when they expect unique advice.
Especially when they don't want to take the unique advice I write. It's a damn shame.
 
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