Confidence always fluctuates.
But Self Esteem never does.
You can't have high Self Esteem if you dont have Self Respect.
If you have high Self Esteem, then you feel internally validated, and have an internal Locus of Control.
When you dont need external validation, you are indepent of others' thoughts, words, and actions to a much higher degree than the average person.
In order to build more Self Esteem, one would have to feel that one is living a life of Meaning, and Purpose,and especially a life of Fulfillment.
When you are truly fulfilled, you are in Abundance Mentality, thus, you can easily be a Giving person.
When you are fulfilled, and your needs are met, you are not irritable,and not prone to be offended easily.
When you live a life that makes you happy, one that you enjoy, you enjoy sharing your positive feelings with others.
Thus, you bring wealth and value to others.
When you observe yourself living this life, one that is with purpose and fulfilling, you feel you have resources.
And when you have resources, you have confidence.
While it's true that confidence fluctuates, it is also tru that your self esteem keeps you more willing to try new things, and go outside your standard comfort zone.
Since you are not irritable, you live a fulfilling life...why not? Right?
The question then becomes what if you are not living the life you enjoy?
How do you stay confident?
Well, you cant...not exactly...not in ALL situations.
You CAN be self Assured.
Meaning, that even when you're in situations and circumstances in which you DONT KNOW WTF you're doing,and have made a 'mistake', you are not feeling pressure to impress others, or get their approval, acceptance, and their validaton.
So how differently do you act when you make a 'mistake' but are not dependent on NEEDING others to validate you?
You are Self Assured.
" I Know WHO I am, and WHAT Im capable of. And Im cool with other people not knowing what I AM capable of. I dont need to show off to them, nor do I need their acceptance and approval, thus, I move through life naturally, and without the extra burden of worrying about what people will think about me.
Because Im not in control of that. So I let go of any anxiety about that, and just be ME. Because that's all I should Be....just ME. And if that's not good enough for them, despite my efforts to improve myself and be an articulate, well educated, well spoken, and worldly , mature and masculine man..then so be it. Im ok with that."
So look for building upon your natural Self Esteem.
The positive feeling of loving and accepting yourself, and knowing that you do deserve good things, and dont deserve to be disrespected and treated poorly,nor have your resources taken from you.
What really is the key for unlocking your Self Esteem though?
Well, it really is about BEING.
Accepting WHO you are , deep down inside The good, the bad, and the ugly.
And taking steps , as mature, masculine man , to take responsibility for your life , thoughts, conditions,and actions.
HOW do YOU move through life?
While just about everything can be 'faked' to a degree, with your knowledge, and intellectual capacity, and knowing right from wrong, and wanting a good, healthy life...why would you want to fake it?
Then dont fake it.
BE it.
Not only will you be more respected, and have more self respect for yourself, but your life will be free of always trying to 'hide' things, and be ashamed of yourself. And your conditions.
See, you were born into certain conditions, that you,as a child, coudlnt really change.
But now, as a grown man, you DO have the capability to change yourself, your life, and your environment.
And thats all your meant to do here while down here....
If you KNOW what you want, then your mission in life is to DO that which brings you Joy.
It's when you DONT do that,that you suffer.
Think about it.
