"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do you guys think about violence in video games?

Squiggly Sponge

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Some answers... plus rant

jt the azn said:
Some questions to think about:

Is it dangerous to children?
Is it alright in moderation?
Is it alright if the person has logical thinking?
How about if a person commits a murder spree because of violence in video games?
Is violence so powerful in video games that it is addicting?
Is violence in video games being contagious bad?
Is violence wrong?
etc...

Just add your thoughts about this issue.
Children are influenced by all sorts of things. As with things such as violence in music (Rap) and violence on TV and Movies, I think people are avoiding the really harmful issue - bad parenting. People just don't want to take responsibility anymore which has us going down the oft mentioned "slippery slope".

I'd still say that video games do have some influence, and letting kids get dependent on them is going to lead to very bad things happening. One of my housemates is addicted to a popular online game, but if you were to take it away he'll likely replace it with another game instead. Our generation needs to get out and enjoy life instead of staying in and being entertained by television, games and the internet (...he says sitting behind his computer :cool: ).

If anyone commits a murder based on a video game, chances are they're already mentally underdeveloped (read: f*cked up).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I still say do the brain scans. There is already plenty of research indicating certain brain scan anomalies that correlate with violent behavior and other behavioral abnormalities. Some day this will all be common knowledge, and will turn the whole justice/crime/punishment system upside down... but that's a long day coming, because people will have a very hard time accepting the reality of "they know not what they're doing."
 

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mr_elor said:
Well done, why don't you PM me your address and I'll send a cookie and a gold star in the post.
Riiiight.

In any case, I used to feel that the whole "violent media contributes" argument was a line of BS as well, but you should go to a library and read Grossman a bit. One very encouraging thing covered in "On Killing" is the discussion on how much operant conditioning it takes to make an average soldier into a reliable killer.
 

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Bonhomme said:
I still say do the brain scans. There is already plenty of research indicating certain brain scan anomalies that correlate with violent behavior and other behavioral abnormalities. Some day this will all be common knowledge, and will turn the whole justice/crime/punishment system upside down... but that's a long day coming, because people will have a very hard time accepting the reality of "they know not what they're doing."
I disagree with you to an extent. Theres a spurious correlation at work with regards to the biological perspective. Brain anomalies dont soley explain violent behavior in children, or people. Theres a psychosocial and sociocultural aspect involved as well.
 

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What do you guys think about violence in video games?
To be honest, I'm more concerned about violence in real life than video games...

With all the pitfalls and dark corners of society, no one should be concerned about the affects of video games. All those busy bodies and do-gooders who think they're saving the planet by attacking violence in video games should go get a job at a drug rehab center to open their eyes to the real menaces of society.

It's just more scare-mongering and--likely--feminists who need an outlet for attention and another means of control.

Today I played a little Call of Duty 4 and blew about 60 guys brains out, then I went shopping and held a door open for an old lady, chatted up the manager on duty, and called a friend about a christmas dinner. See the correlation between video games and the rest of my life? I certainly don't.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm not saying biochemistry is everything, oakraiderz2, but I am saying it's very important -- and here I add, way, way, way underrated. I'm the only one who even has mentioned it in this thread.

Some of the correlations between brain scans and behavior are striking. It is absolutely daft to dismiss such findings.
 
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