Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep, apsolutely cheap and superficial. Heaven forbid he lowers his standards and settles to be with someone he's not attracted to either now or in the future.CraigMack said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What do you do when you find out a girl has a fat mom? Stay? Run?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
Lowering his standards to...what? Women who are 100% guaranteed to not get fat years down the road? Maybe he should date some corpses.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Women are as capable of keeping fit as much as guys, albeit a bit more difficult for them to get fit if they've let themselves go. None the less, I would prefer to date a woman who can control her eating. Think about it, is it too much to ask that people balance their food intake with exercise? Even though it's may not be common around the world, it's not that difficult to stay slim as you mature. You just need to want to and make it your lifestyle.Scrumtulescence said:
GaryUranga
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its not like youre gonna marry her, so just tap that meanwhile.
insanity
Master Don Juan
whenever i dated women in the past. i couldn't understand why into 5 or 6 months of the relationship, they gained massive amount of weight. i thought they got the fat plague or something. i always got mad because to me it seemed like all their ex-boyfriends got the best years of their beauty and i got the scraps. i couldn't understand how this hot girls could stay beautiful with them and when they got with me they let themselves go. now that i think of it. all of their mothers seemed to be really heavy women.
oh well i finally got a girl that loves going to the gym thank god!
oh well i finally got a girl that loves going to the gym thank god!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Muzzlehatch
Don Juan
Interesting thread! I too have a fat women phobia. If someone offered me a million to screw a fat woman, I physically would not be able to perform.
But obsessive people are not attractive. Extrapolating what she might look like ten years down the road after observing what she ate on your date seems slightly obssessive to me!
Best thing to do is choose a woman you love, state your position then leave it to her. Make it just one of those foundations that your relationship is based on, that both of you will continue to look the very best for each other, which means staying healthy.
Some people insist on non-smokers, some on non-fatties. Seems fair to me.
But obsessive people are not attractive. Extrapolating what she might look like ten years down the road after observing what she ate on your date seems slightly obssessive to me!
Best thing to do is choose a woman you love, state your position then leave it to her. Make it just one of those foundations that your relationship is based on, that both of you will continue to look the very best for each other, which means staying healthy.
Some people insist on non-smokers, some on non-fatties. Seems fair to me.
edmond
Senior Don Juan
Why should I
The majority of women loose it when they pass 30, it’s the youth that holds everything in place, they wake up one morning and everything goes, “snap.”
T**t dropping down to the gut, a** looking like a huge rock face, chins like a Pelican, etc…..
If I had a girl and she became one of those then I would drop her in a second:kick: . I am 41 years old and take very good care of myself, Power lifting, hygienic, well dressed, etc…Why should I walk around with a woman who looks like a hog?
The majority of women loose it when they pass 30, it’s the youth that holds everything in place, they wake up one morning and everything goes, “snap.”
T**t dropping down to the gut, a** looking like a huge rock face, chins like a Pelican, etc…..
If I had a girl and she became one of those then I would drop her in a second:kick: . I am 41 years old and take very good care of myself, Power lifting, hygienic, well dressed, etc…Why should I walk around with a woman who looks like a hog?
Date her mom? Look, if you're interests rest with a certain girl, don't be concerned about her family. If you're turned off by her fat mother, get a grip on reality and see a psychiatrist. Chances are you have more serious problems with your own mental health.Heyzeus said:
It's simple. There's nothing to worry about if your real interest (i.e., the girl whose mother is fat) is not genetically disposed to "greatness". If you're in a long-term relationship with a woman who isn't managing her weight, get a dual membership to the gym, and work out with her.
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Our generation is much more informed than the last few about health. We know about low carb and trans fats and all the bad stuff. We also go the gym more. I dunno bout u guys but my parents didnt have gym memberships back in the 70's when they were my age. Who did back then, it wasnt as common a thing till the 80's and 90's? Now almost every girl i meet in their 20's has a gym membership. So if she looks good now thats all that matters. Her mom prob just let herself go and eats like crap. What kind of fod does she order when u guys go out to eat? Does she get eat grilled chicken salads and sushi, or does she chow on burgers and fries?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I go to some of my cousins' high school events, and I am frequently amazed at how the typical teenage girl next to her mother usually looks like 'bean pole and the blob.'
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Keep in mind that life usually changes after you have kids. Most women tend to not bother with getting back into shape after a pregnancy because looking good is simply not as important as raising a child. This is particularly true for women whose looks were highly superficial to boot (i.e., women who only look good because they want to mate.) Once they're involved in a long-term relationship, such as marriage with children, they're no longer focused on impressing to attract. There are women who do get back into shape, but that's typically either for their self-image or because you suck in the sack.