What do you do when she really digs you but has a boyfriend?

[JohnnyActually]

To give some background, I am in college and new to this forum, and I met this girl who is pretty awesome. I I'm rather interested in her, and vise versa, but she has a boyfriend who she has been with for a year. She has told me, however, that if she was single she would be all over me, thinks I'm a 10/10 rating wise, and really likes hanging out with me. She is a bit socially awkward, and a videogame geek, but super adorable. Her boyfriend is very effeminate (I mistook him for gay when I first met him) and is not very affectionate from what I have heard. While she has no problem with having sex, it should also be noted that he does not want to have it, and thus their relationship is sexless (I found this out when asking if she was a virgin via a playful game of Truth or Dare). Her and I have great chemistry, but I have a tendency to go to fast, and really don't want to screw this up.
Can anyone give me some advice and/or strategy regarding my situation?

 

[expos]

To give some background, I am in college and new to this forum, and I met this girl who is pretty awesome. I I'm rather interested in her, and vise versa, but she has a boyfriend who she has been with for a year. She has told me, however, that if she was single she would be all over me, thinks I'm a 10/10 rating wise, and really likes hanging out with me. She is a bit socially awkward, and a videogame geek, but super adorable. Her boyfriend is very effeminate (I mistook him for gay when I first met him) and is not very affectionate from what I have heard. While she has no problem with having sex, it should also be noted that he does not want to have it, and thus their relationship is sexless (I found this out when asking if she was a virgin via a playful game of Truth or Dare). Her and I have great chemistry, but I have a tendency to go to fast, and really don't want to screw this up.
Can anyone give me some advice and/or strategy regarding my situation?

She's not yours. She's with him for a reason and sees things in him worth keeping in her life.

We've all been there. We see a girl that is attractive and part of our ego wants us to take her away from him. But relationships run far deeper than looks (for some girls) and he might be very quality in other aspects of his life. If make you any sort of move on her, it good be very awkward.

Remember that women say all sorts of sh!t as well and she could be just seeking attention by complementing you - and you complementing her back to feed her ego.

 

[Renegade357]

If she has a boyfriend you are wasting your time. Period.

 

[Masculinity]

If make you any sort of move on her, it good be very awkward.

I strongly disagree.

OP: Although blatantly exposing your interest might not be a good idea, working your way into the girl has potential to get you the girl. Of course, a girl who is happy is unlikely to cheat on her boyfriend. However, a woman who is discontent in her relationship is more likely to cheat, especially if you can provide whatever her relationships is lacking (i.e., good sex in this case). There are some guidelines you should follow, though. Read Bradd80's thread on how to be a better DJ. The guy gives solid advice despite challenges he has faced.

Here is the THREAD

Remember that women say all sorts of sh!t as well and she could be just seeking attention by complementing you - and you complementing her back to feed her ego.

This could be true in a number of situations; we can come up with reasons why we shouldn't walk to the street or drive a car (e.g., you could fall or get killed in an auto accident), but at the end of the day they will just restrict you.

If she has a boyfriend you are wasting your time. Period.

Read above ^

 

[GS750]

I've been in this situation. Wasted my time investing a girl that's taken. We all have at one point I'm sure. You want what you can't have. Find a girl that's single to spend your time pursuing.

 

[dasein]

Every attractive woman has a "boyfriend" or FWB or Ex in the picture or several of one or more varieties. The only way you should find out about them is when they say "no" to spending time alone with you, or to physical advances, which should happen or not very soon after meeting. Everything else is noise.

So she has shown her hand, she is flirting with guys while in a relationship, telling strangers the intimate details of her sex life, hangs out with men she would do when not around her BF and tells them that, so just how "awesome" and "adorable" is she? She is either seeking to cheat or attention supply. This is not quality. She is certainly not a good bet for a dating or GF prospect for you. Up to you if want to try to sleep with her, and if you decide to try that, get moving and get that on the table, and if she throws drama, excuses or noise, move on. Whatever you do, don't keep going in any kind of friendship direction hoping for things to change, if you want to sleep with her, make a plan for that to happen and work the plan. Personally, would move on to other options. Good luck.

 

[nismo-4]

Mixed signals means low to no interest. Judge nismo sounds like a broken ass record with that.

To give some background, I am in college and new to this forum, and I met this girl who is pretty awesome. I I'm rather interested in her, and vise versa, but she has a boyfriend who she has been with for a year.

Drop her ass. Your princess is in another castle.

She has told me, however, that if she was single she would be all over me, thinks I'm a 10/10 rating wise, and really likes hanging out with me.

What she gave you was a let's just be friends. A rejection.

She is a bit socially awkward, and a videogame geek, but super adorable. Her boyfriend is very effeminate (I mistook him for gay when I first met him) and is not very affectionate from what I have heard. While she has no problem with having sex, it should also be noted that he does not want to have it, and thus their relationship is sexless (I found this out when asking if she was a virgin via a playful game of Truth or Dare).

My ass. She sees more value in him than you.

Her and I have great chemistry, but I have a tendency to go to fast, and really don't want to screw this up.

Screw up what, being her friend? Because that's all you are to her!

Can anyone give me some advice and/or strategy regarding my situation?

Recognize that you are in the friendzone, stop wasting your time, spin more plates, and go ghost! But above all, CALL HER BLUFF!!!

Read be- Your princess is in another castle. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. And she wouldn't have a boyfriend if Brad Pitt made a move on her. That's my ruling.

Case closed. Broken record again.:woo: