What do you do to put yourself back into line?

[killerasp]

Ive been meeting plenty of girls over the last couple of weeks. Ive had couple of sucessful number closes, up from ZERO. So i can say its been getting better with each try.

But as i get to know these girls, i realize that i have many things in common with these girls. For example, one girl loves mountain biking which is also my favorite sport, she even loves it more thatn i do. Using this an example, i sometimes think to myself, "this girl is the one. she is perfect for me. etc. etc". But as DJ, we are taught not to put girls on pedistals and worship them. But i constantly find myself becoming infatuated with this girl. I check often to see her online, sometimes i msg her out of the blue. But after i do so, i think to myself, "WTF AM I DOING? What is happening to me". I worked so hard to move away from the AFC terrority, but i find myself wandernig back into that zone.

Im sure others have found themselves doing AFC things from time to time, but what have you done to prevent yourself from doing these things? And if you have done them, do you learn from your mistakes or just do them again?

 

[SamePendo]

All this challenge stuff (in your case), the aloofness, the kinoing, is to emulate what a pure DJ would do.
Does a ¨DJ¨ have time to see if Cindy is online? Hell no! He is having a great time doing more important things than that. Either work or fun, a DJ is doing something more important than that.
My advice? Be genuinely busy. Busy with work or a recreational thing, or even sleeping.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by SamePendo
All this challenge stuff (in your case), the aloofness, the kinoing, is to emulate what a pure DJ would do.
Does a ¨DJ¨ have time to see if Cindy is online? Hell no! He is having a great time doing more important things than that. Either work or fun, a DJ is doing something more important than that.
My advice? Be genuinely busy. Busy with work or a recreational thing, or even sleeping.

i realize that and its something i try to do as often as i can. im always working out or doing HW when i was in school so i can keep myself generally busy. but at the same time, keeping yourself busy and keeping yourself away from "her" will lower her IL in you.

 

[Julian]

Dude you can check to see if shes online, just make sure whenever YOU'RE online to have ur away message up. This way it looks as if your doing something else when your really just surfin Sosuave and various porn sites.

Use today modern technology to your advantage man!

 

[SamePendo]

Originally posted by killerasp
but at the same time, keeping yourself busy and keeping yourself away from "her" will lower her IL in you.

It will if her IL is lower than 50% (meaning 100 is she wets herself when seeing you and 0 is, 0 interest). If her IL is above 50, she will dig you more.

If what I said above doesnt apply to you, it probably is because we ¨play¨ differently.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by SamePendo
It will if her IL is lower than 50% (meaning 100 is she wets herself when seeing you and 0 is, 0 interest). If her IL is above 50, she will dig you more.

If what I said above doesnt apply to you, it probably is because we ¨play¨ differently.

Reading one of David DeAngelo's Mailbag emails on attraction, he states:

HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED

Well this is what you were looking for, so
here it is...

I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula
for knowing whether or not a woman is interested
in you.

Here it is:

1) You engage her.

2) She engages you back.

After reading that post, ive been basing all my converstations on this and so far it has been working. I assume by her giving me her number, she is somewhat interested.

 

[ASav]

I think the (short version) difference between a DJ and an AFC is that the DJ is happy with his decisions and knows that whatever he does will work because he is content with hinself and his decision making ability. The AFC will ponder the situation into oblivion defeating any chance he may have had. Read Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power I think number 28 is "Always enter action with boldness." Even a hint of hesitation on your part will set the dominoes in motion.

It's like the saying "a dog can smell fear" its not true in the literal sense but it is true that they notice any unnatural action or reaction. All of a DJs actions are normal and appropriate therefore he is never out of sync and things fall into place around him.

Be happy with yourself. Not everyone is going to love you, like you or hate you just don't let it get you down.

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by Julian
Dude you can check to see if shes online, just make sure whenever YOU'RE online to have ur away message up. This way it looks as if your doing something else when your really just surfin Sosuave and various porn sites.

Use today modern technology to your advantage man!

But, then she can see that you aren't IDLE and she'll know you are actually there!

But, honestly, killerasp....the feeling you get is natural when you meet a marry-able chick. Just make sure you keep the feelings in check until they are mutual and make sure not to have those feelings for chicks that aren't up to par. It's not so bad to care for a girl every now and then....just don't show it

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by dave134
[B It's not so bad to care for a girl every now and then....just don't show it [/B]

When i think about more, i also think its a natural reaction. And i realize that i could never let these feelings come out or it will be the end of it. Thanks for the heads up.

 

[DJjazzyJeff]

Originally posted by dave134
But, then she can see that you aren't IDLE and she'll know you are actually there!

But, honestly, killerasp....the feeling you get is natural when you meet a marry-able chick. Just make sure you keep the feelings in check until they are mutual and make sure not to have those feelings for chicks that aren't up to par. It's not so bad to care for a girl every now and then....just don't show it

You could always get AIM idler which lets you set your idle time no matter what you are doing.