jophil28
Master Don Juan
You are dating a really hot lady and you are falling "in love" . You can't get enough .You are thinking - FUTURE after a few months together of the most intense emotional and sexual journey in your life.
She has been married before and divorced for some years.
One night she drinks a little too much wine and tells you that she was with a "nice" guy for 6 years from age 18 to age 23 .
She went out one night with the girls and met D (tall , handsome etc and they had a fun night ) D leaves the country for a few weeks and when he returns he tracks her down and ask her out .She starts to date him behind her B/Fs back. However , when D was out of the country the Bf bought her an engagement ring which she wore.
She dates D nine times and then HE asks her to marry him ( I do not know about the sex thing with D during the dating, but go figure)
So she dumps the Bf and marries D . Her family are against it.
However she continues a secret ,casual relationship with the Bf who she saw occasionally. One night she told D that she was traveling to another part of the state on teaching business, but had planned a dinner date with the Bf (and who knows what else was on her mind).
Unfortunately, they were seen together in a car at a traffic light by D who pulled up beside them. He raced home and tossed a lot of her stuff out on the front lawn. She got home and within an hour they had "made-up "...
(Just one of several DRAMAS from her past that this woman has told me. Somehow it never occured to me that SHE was the main cause of the drama. )
MY alarm bells were CLANGING , but I ignored my gut and stayed in the relationship - bad decision !!
I did not understand WHY she had a need to tell me.
If I were a woman in a new relationship I would hide this stuff under a thousand blocks of concrete. Then ,recently on this forum ,I began to GET how these BPD women operate - chaos, turmoil and drama is their drug ! Their drama only has the desired effect if it is TOLD ..and it needs to be told to the person who is most likely to be "slapped " by it - her current BOYFRIEND - ME!!!
BUT there is a chance that he will walk away - no problem, she waits a few days and then goes around and f**ks him all night and the games starts all over . Duh!
Dumpworthy ??
She has been married before and divorced for some years.
One night she drinks a little too much wine and tells you that she was with a "nice" guy for 6 years from age 18 to age 23 .
She went out one night with the girls and met D (tall , handsome etc and they had a fun night ) D leaves the country for a few weeks and when he returns he tracks her down and ask her out .She starts to date him behind her B/Fs back. However , when D was out of the country the Bf bought her an engagement ring which she wore.
She dates D nine times and then HE asks her to marry him ( I do not know about the sex thing with D during the dating, but go figure)
So she dumps the Bf and marries D . Her family are against it.
However she continues a secret ,casual relationship with the Bf who she saw occasionally. One night she told D that she was traveling to another part of the state on teaching business, but had planned a dinner date with the Bf (and who knows what else was on her mind).
Unfortunately, they were seen together in a car at a traffic light by D who pulled up beside them. He raced home and tossed a lot of her stuff out on the front lawn. She got home and within an hour they had "made-up "...
(Just one of several DRAMAS from her past that this woman has told me. Somehow it never occured to me that SHE was the main cause of the drama. )
MY alarm bells were CLANGING , but I ignored my gut and stayed in the relationship - bad decision !!
I did not understand WHY she had a need to tell me.
If I were a woman in a new relationship I would hide this stuff under a thousand blocks of concrete. Then ,recently on this forum ,I began to GET how these BPD women operate - chaos, turmoil and drama is their drug ! Their drama only has the desired effect if it is TOLD ..and it needs to be told to the person who is most likely to be "slapped " by it - her current BOYFRIEND - ME!!!
BUT there is a chance that he will walk away - no problem, she waits a few days and then goes around and f**ks him all night and the games starts all over . Duh!
Dumpworthy ??
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