"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you do in this situation?

faiNt`

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Not a big deal but I'm looking for advice for this type of situation because it's bound to happen again.

I've hooked up with girl A for the past month, probably about 5 times.

I asked her Tues what her work schedule was like this week (it changes every week) and she blah blah. She doesn't work Friday so I told her "Ok you can come over Friday and [insert fluff/whatever]"

She replies with something along the lines of "seeing what her plans are" (whenever she asks when we're hanging and suggests a day I say "I'll check my schedule" or whatever and see if I can "pencil her in" (some C&F or whatever)))

So she doesn't really give me an answer. It's Thurs and she asked what time she'd be coming over if she decided to. I've told her on two occasions I need her answer because I need to know if I'm going to have to make other plans. She said okay but didn't answer. I kissed closed after one of those occasions because I wanted to. (if that's important)

I'm really not sure what to do with this because every previous time with any girl I've gotten straight answers that were either "yes" or "busy with blah blah"
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Shes trying to keep the power by not letting you know if she is coming or not. She is consciously doing this. In high school most girls are oblivious to most of the "game" and the volley for power in a relationship, they are just too young and inexperienced to understand it. This girl has a grasp on it from what I can tell.

You can try to break her with some head games but honestly its not a big deal and not worth the time. Let the baby have its bottle; let her think shes calling the shots because in the end, she gets on her knees for you
 

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Sir Psycho Sexy said:
Shes trying to keep the power by not letting you know if she is coming or not. She is consciously doing this. In high school most girls are oblivious to most of the "game" and the volley for power in a relationship, they are just too young and inexperienced to understand it. This girl has a grasp on it from what I can tell.

You can try to break her with some head games but honestly its not a big deal and not worth the time. Let the baby have its bottle; let her think shes calling the shots because in the end, she gets on her knees for you
Agree with most of that. It looks like you got more of a thinker here haha. She sees your C&F and is obviously getting annoyed by it. Your little one liners, "let me see if i can pencil you in" are making her feel insignificant and unimportant. As a result, she is trying to spite you and do the same thing to you. See how it feels??!! Man it hurts doesn't it!?!

Actually no..it doesn't.

I don't like how you said, "i need to know so if you can't i can make other plans" You gave her exactly what she wanted, she feels above you now. Next time, just basically ignore it. Maker other plans anyways, and when she calls you the very day and asks when she should come over, tell her sorry, and that you already made plans because she never called, say that you just assumed she was blowing you off.
Reversal ;o
Sir Psycho Sexy said:
You can try to break her with some head games but honestly its not a big deal and not worth the time. Let the baby have its bottle; let her think shes calling the shots because in the end, she gets on her knees for you
Obviously I don't agree with it because of my above statement (unless she is an easy fvck, then yes, feed her the bottle, and later on, feed her your d1ck). Pull a reversal once or twice, and then throw in a phone call the next week, saying you want to hang out with her. Just mix it up, keep her on the ropes.

Hope it helps
 
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