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What do you do in bars where the music is too loud?

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I SAID WHAT DO YOU DO IN BARS WHERE THE MUSIC IS TOO LOUD!?

Studies have found that people drink more when the music is too loud for them to have fun by socializing with each other, but bars that do this don't always have somewhere decent to dance so the tactic of just going up and dancing with girls like in a club isn't always practical.

I live in quite a small town so my choice of venue is restricted, is there any advice for dealing with these douchebag establishments?
 

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Go to a different bar.

Probably a little more difficult if you live in a small town. This is why I love Philly.
 
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loveshogun said:
Go to a different bar.

Probably a little more difficult if you live in a small town. This is why I love Philly.
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Nice, another Philly guy. I haven't been to the bars over there in forever! (I'm in NJ)
 
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Luckily, in Chicago, there are insane amount of all types of bars. And on top of that, many of the bars with the extremely loud music have other floors or rooms that are more sports-bar-ish.

But the music being so loud isn't always a bad thing. I think environments like this can make it easier to judge someone's interest level in you. If they aren't interested, they won't be trying to scream over the music to talk to you. I've noticed the more interested she is, the further in she leans. Of course, it might be harder to get that interest because of the music, which is where your frustration comes in.

Also, it is very easy to initiate kino in these situations. It's almost hard not to have your hand on her shoulder/back/arm when you lean in to tell her something.

By the way, that first line of the OP had me laughing pretty hard. That was pretty much my night all last night.
 

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TALK LOUDER

it is better because you have an excuse to get closer to the woman sooner because of the loud music. get closer talk more into her ear and should move things faster if she is interested in you. works well in honky tonk bars
 
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gte some ear kissing kino goin =P lol
 
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