JohnChops
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The first time. Yes. Do you feel the same now?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What do women want?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PantyWhisperer
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Preach, brother!! I definitely went down that road from a marriage that began when I was 22 and ended at 28. I was lost in the sauce. No clue how to talk to women. It took me quite some time to get some confidence and learn the game. A game which I found completely change by both my age difference and 6 more years on the calendar. It's like tennis - it's basically the same game but your approach is different when you are 21 year old Federer vs 34 year old Federer. I wasn't even allowed to talk to the girl who cut my hair during my first message. Wife would sit right there, watching the whole time. "You sure talked a lot. You want to f-her?" And I put up with it. The punchline, she was banging other dudes. [facepalm]
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Yes. A ex put me in a 12 month drought and my confidence was shredded. A
JohnChops
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ouch man, hopefully you're over that sh1t. How did your ex put you in a drought?
With or without any person (i.e., any man or any woman), I am the same. If people want to stay with me, they will stay. If they want to leave, they are free to do so. I don't or my behavior as such does not drive people away from me, but my god, some of these people are so jealous of me for various reasons, even if I mind my own fukcing business.
It does not affect me at all. I will go out and make new friends.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I wasn't cheating or seeing outside women. I wanted the marriage to work, it was as soon as the ink was dry on the marriage certificate she flipped 180 on me. No more cooking, no more help or support. She was still fvcking me for a few years then she decided she could hurt me worse if she shut me off of that. And she did. It was much better to be alone than with someone who hates you.
Anyways I ended the drought a little over a year later. I got a gf. She wanted to fvck me the night after my gf anointed me the first time. She could see it in my swagger. I told her "I wouldn't let you touch me with a ten foot pole".