"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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what do u guys make of this?

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Alright I like this girl from church, I was doing some light kino on her like tickling and playing punching and kept getting positive responses. I got her number and she asked for mine as well and I texted her a few days later but just had a small conversation with her. She had to go to the library to study. So I stopped intiating conversation with her at church and the kino as well just to see how she would respond. She still seemed normal like she would intiate the conversation with me and not ignore me. Last time we were talking she asked me if I hada girlfriend but i was like I just broke up with her. And she was like awwwww. Then i asked her if she had a bf. She said no she was single and she wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. What the hell does that mean? . Theres a few guys that like her from church and they said shes not into guys and really hard to get. Shes just had one relationship before and that was nearly 2 years ago. I dont wanna fall into the friendship zone so I am thinking of getting the kino started again
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
She still seemed normal like she would intiate the conversation with me and not ignore me. Last time we were talking she asked me if I hada girlfriend but i was like I just broke up with her. And she was like awwwww. Then i asked her if she had a bf. She said no she was single and she wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. What the hell does that mean? .
Dude, don't ever directly answer a personal question, like, "do you have a girlfriend?" It sounds really weak when you give a direct answer like that.

You should have said something like:

c&f "Several, do you have a calculator?"

Or anything other than a direct answer.
You don't have to use c&f just don't give her a direct answer.

By the way, the way you answered you let her down. She was probably hoping that you would consider her your girlfriend.
 

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cheers guys. yea i think i gotta get a bit ****y with this chick and learn to ignore her from time to time. Yo dementia whats banter?
No answers to her questions, make her chase me.
 

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is this game or no interest? dementia?

alright its been a while since i talk to the chick from church. Like whenver I would see her it would just be a hi and thats about it from my part. Like last sunday when I was sitting at church I pretty much sat in the row which was in line with hers but we had the aile in between. I just went and sat there cos there was no were else to sit and as soon as I sat there she said hi , hows it goin. I just said hi and started chatting her mate up who was sitting in front of her.

Things seem kinda good so I thought I would text her today.
Things seem to be going well like we were both kinda mocking each other and the conversation not serious was going with the flow until suddenly she dropped the bomb on me by saying she had to get back to doing her work at the library. I was texting her the same time as last time I texted her which was three weeks back and also on thursday afternoon. I didnt reply and I was pretty pissed off.

What do u think my next move should be dementia or anyone else that could help?
 

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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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hey cheers for ur response dude. Yea I think I am too worried about what shes saying and what shes doing blah blah blah and how I should respond. Might have to read few of pooks and mr. fingz posts to get me in the right mindset again. I have got oneitis with this chick so I am gonna occupy my mind with some other chicks for while.
 
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Sounds like she has a reserved nature and 'seduction' techniques and reading material is not your cure!!

My advice to you is quit playing/toying/kinoing her - let her make the next move and don't chase her!! If you were "The one" she would have let you known. She did ask if you had a g/f so there may be some interest.

A woman never picks "studying:" over a man whom she is interested in!! Never!!

Don't initate contact anymore but don't become angry or bitter if she doesn't call or talk to you. Be cordial and be in a light mood in her presence- just don't be overly playful!!!

She is not ready for a relationship because she is looking for the 'right' man!!! You are/may not be 'that' man!!
 

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let her make the next move and don't chase her
:D cheers for dat and I am being sincere.

Don't initate contact anymore but don't become angry or bitter if she doesn't call or talk to you. Be cordial and be in a light mood in her presence- just don't be overly playful!!!
how do i avoid being overly playful? you mean tickling all the time and stuff like dat?

She is not ready for a relationship because she is looking for the 'right' man!!! You are/may not be 'that' man
hmmmm I thought I was turning into a DJ. What girl wouldn't wanna be with a DJ or one whos on his way.
 
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Dude, do you like every girl? No? Then why expect every girl to like you?? Don't take it personal!!

Quit tickling women and start pursuing them in a romantic vein only!!
 

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hahaha fair enuf, cheers for ur help though

one more question u know how u said I should just lay back and wait for her to make the next move, what am I looking for here? her to intiate a conversation or start kinoing me and something else?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's irrelevent what any of us think of how you've described the situation. No matter how proficient you are with English, you can't describe a situation so that a reader has an accurate interpretation of the reality. You need to think about what you think you should do now, because that is the only way you can learn to think for yourself.

When the important moment comes, it's get laid of jack off... and your not going to have the Don Juan Discussion Forum to help you then and there.

Good luck mate.

Clayton.
 
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