This seems like quite an obvious question and one that I've been asking myself for years. When I look at my close friends, acquaintances, people I've grown up with, many of my Facebook contacts, it strikes me just how many of them are in happy and secure relationships. They have no big dramas, they don't resort to crazy mind games or visit sites like this one for help. In fact, many of these guys we would consider to be beta males. Most of them are in average to poor shape, lack any obvious passion or adventure...in fact many of them look upto me for my creative talents and achievements, my size and physique, my social skills and my good looks.
And yet, there they are in their content relationships. Uploading photos of themselves and their long term girlfriends or wives on holidays, on days out, in their family home with the kids, their wedding day and so on. And here we are posting on forums, asking for advice on how to keep women interested or advising others to spin plates and work on improving themselves, how to seduce women etc.
I realise that not everyone here wants that contented relationship that I talk of and this obviously doesn't apply to them, but what about those of us who keep getting knocked back by women we really like or getting dumped by our girlfriends?
A lot of people seem to think of me as a ladies man because I get a lot of attention. However, that attention is mostly superficial and when it comes to keeping a woman interested, I'm less of a ladies man than most of these so-called "beta males".
I really don't have any answers, which is why I put this question out there.
Could it be that the information we learn from these sites/forums is not suitable for long term relationships? Could it be that we're just too eager to get women in our lives and try too hard?
I also have to ask, how many of the guys on this forum giving advice are actually in a contented, monogamous and long term relationship?
I'm not digging at SoSuave or any of the posters here. I'm just trying to open up a discussion. I'd be interested to hear your views.
And yet, there they are in their content relationships. Uploading photos of themselves and their long term girlfriends or wives on holidays, on days out, in their family home with the kids, their wedding day and so on. And here we are posting on forums, asking for advice on how to keep women interested or advising others to spin plates and work on improving themselves, how to seduce women etc.
I realise that not everyone here wants that contented relationship that I talk of and this obviously doesn't apply to them, but what about those of us who keep getting knocked back by women we really like or getting dumped by our girlfriends?
A lot of people seem to think of me as a ladies man because I get a lot of attention. However, that attention is mostly superficial and when it comes to keeping a woman interested, I'm less of a ladies man than most of these so-called "beta males".
I really don't have any answers, which is why I put this question out there.
Could it be that the information we learn from these sites/forums is not suitable for long term relationships? Could it be that we're just too eager to get women in our lives and try too hard?
I also have to ask, how many of the guys on this forum giving advice are actually in a contented, monogamous and long term relationship?
I'm not digging at SoSuave or any of the posters here. I'm just trying to open up a discussion. I'd be interested to hear your views.