"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What do I make of this? ("Will buy lunch someday...")

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On that point, i dont disagree with you Vulpine. It is clearly a mens forum, though i've noticed most people dont seem to mind penkitten hanging out.

I cant identify with the women hating though. It just feels too much like double talk for us all to be focusing on gaming one women after the next, then turning right around and verbally crucifying them for them doing the very thing we want them to do.

Sure HE'S married, but she isn't, so lets do a better job at putting the blame, if one wants to blame, where it belongs.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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azanon said:
I didnt say it was appropriate here, necessarily. I havent really thought about that to be honest.

I think you and i have a different working definition of what a troll is.
My understanding of a troll is someone who makes posts that are not inherently genuine and instead, are designed with the motive of stirring up controversy or disheavel. With this defintion stated, her initial posts and follow-ups look genuine (real) to me.

All due respect, I think it really is "your bad".
With all respect, I think you are naiive. I've got some very true stories that would make AWESOME trolls here because they'd stir up all sorts of controversy.

to troll (third-person singular simple present trolls, present participle trolling, simple past trolled, past participle trolled)
1. To saunter, especially to cruise for a sexual partner
I am trolling for custom, said the actress to the Bishop.
2. (fishing) To entice fish with bait; to fish using a line and bait or lures trailed behind a boat.
3. By extension, to search (for), to draw out, to entice
4. To disrupt the operation of an online community.

Noun
troll (plural trolls)
1. An instance of trolling, especially, in fishing, the trailing of a baited line.
2. (internet) Someone who posts to a newsgroup, bulletin board, etc., in a way deliberately intended to anger other posters and draw arguments, or otherwise disrupt the group's intended purpose.
3. (internet) Such a deliberately inflammatory post itself.
"otherwise disrupt the group's intended purpose" Hmm...
 

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With all respect, I think you are naiive. I've got some very true stories that would make AWESOME trolls here because they'd stir up all sorts of controversy.
I certainly see the controversy now, but i'd probably point the blame for it in a different direction than her.
 

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azanon said:
It is clearly a mens forum, though i've noticed most people dont seem to mind penkitten hanging out.
Penkitten doesn't troll with stupid sh!t like "help me! I'm married to Giovanni, but I want to bang his married brother!" now, does she?

azanon said:
I certainly see the controversy now, but i'd probably point the blame for it in a different direction than her.
Who, then, is to blame? What direction are you going to point? I'm not a woman posting in a men's forum, don't point at me. Did her search engine fail? Who can she sue for this error?!?!
 

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Vulpine said:
Who, then, is to blame? What direction are you going to point? I'm not a woman posting in a men's forum, don't point at me. Did her search engine fail? Who can she sue for this error?!?!
I did go to the site you recommended and it sucks. This has a lot more life to it, in spite of people like you, Vulpine.

P.S. I found this forum by googling "dating advice" or something like that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Harsh comments about women are commendable Azanon. Vulpine's points are valid.

The married man simply called off the mission. He was told that he was going to receive sex but couldn't be bothered arranging lunch. So, he obviously doesn't want it. The poster should have included that information straight up, since it decisively resolves the problem. In any event "Mature Man" section has to keep some degree of self regulation over the type/quality of requests made. If anything, priority should be given to immature men's requests for advice rather than women's requests.
 

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the guy being married is just one theory right now, regardless of if he is or isnt, i think she can do way better.
 

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There are(at least )two pre-conditions for a relationship to leave the launch pad-

1.That both people want get the same things out of it.
2.That both parties are FREE to participate in a relationship .


In this case, neither of these exist, so - launch fails.

This lady is drawn by what she can't have. Sane people do not date married men. Triangles are for fools.
 

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TOTOLINKA said:
I did go to the site you recommended and it sucks. This has a lot more life to it, in spite of people like you, Vulpine.

P.S. I found this forum by googling "dating advice" or something like that.
Sorry with Vulpine on this, this poster seems like a fake, actually it is hard to imagine this poster being anything but.

But i am sure time will tell.
 
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