"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi,

I am guy in his thirties who is in a bit of a tricky situation, the problem is that I have become interested in a woman about 18 years older than me. I would love to ask her out for a drink sometime because I believe she is currently single. I don't however want her to think I am weird by being interested in her. I realise the extent of the age gap is large but you would never tell she was the age she is.

Do you think I should bite the bullet or do you think I should leave well alone.:confused:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you think she'll freak out at the thought of a much younger man fancying her or will she be flattered
 
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I have spoken to her a couple of times, and she always seems to enquire about me if she is talking to someone I know, but I don't know whether or not this is a romantic interest.
 
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IF YOU DON'T ASK HER, THEN YOU WILL NEVER KNOW AND IT WON'T MATTER ANYWAY, WILL IT????? NO NEED FOR THIS POST......
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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After people graduate from high school it's kind of free reign. I personally don't want to date 20-year olds again, but 25 and up, sure. I've dated women close to 50 and many in their 30's. Best not to put too many restrictions or you'll lose out.

Some women in their 20's look like sh-t, some in their 40's look great, and vice versa.

Best not to let society dictate your choices ... especially American society. We're talking about a society that thinks sitcoms are funny, fast food is good, and proclaims Brittney Spears can sing.

Knowing this, best to trust your own instincts. In the 21st century, I'd say most of the time American society is wrong on just about everything.

Ask her out and have fun.
 
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When I was 25 I was dating a hot little hardbody who was 42 (at least, so she told me.) Divorcee, fake tan, flat stomach, step-aerobics-chiseled butt, amazing t1ts, & she hadn't had it good in years. The sex was awesome and my buddies thought I was the coolest guy around. Go for it.

Worst case, she says no. Best case, she throws you against the wall right there and mounts you like the stud you are.
 
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