"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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trainee Don Juan

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hey, my name is Alan and I'm a recovering afc. just got out of a ****ty relationship (2 years) and i know i'm having some confidence issues (i have to consciously repress neediness at times). i'm fairly new to the whole online game process, i used to just rule it out cos i thought i was crap at it but only recently have decided to give it a try. here is a convo i started under a photo of a hb 8 that i randomly added on facebook. what i really need to know is, how do i go about getting the number and setting up a get together?

i was thinking of saying something c&f like, 'i'm going to be in town for exam revision most of this week, we should hang out some time cos...you look like a lonely person :p' or something along those lines, does anyone have any other ideas? i read somewhere that i need to transition from online to real life as soon as possible, otherwise i'll just be seen as an online buddy. if anyone has advice with online gaming that would be great, cos i'm such a noob at it and i feel like a needy lil b1tch right now, lol.



the convo thus far:

me
yes... i'm looking through your photos, and dayuuuuuuuuum!!! my name is Alan *bicep flex*
hahahahaha!!! what'd u get upto this weekend? *tricep flex*

her
haha hello.. didn't get up to much just had a pretty relaxed weekend. how bout yourself?

me
been working really hard...on my tan! lol. i plan to study heaps this week to make up for it though. wat'd u think of my introduction btw, was that classy or what? :) i take it ur fillipina or halfcast?

her
haha your tan huh.. you sure you don't mean sunburn lol. your introduction was very classy lol. yeah I'm full filo.. are you half?

me
yer, i'm a nice shade of angry red now, haha. really, that's so nice of you! *flexes pecs* i'm halfcast, like that gerald anderson dude. whereabout are you from?

her
lol whose Gerald Anderson?? Haha yeah I bet your bright red and hurting right now.. poor you! umm I live down south lol or in a cave as some would say haha.

me
=O ur filo and you don't know who gerald anderson is?!?!?! actually, i don't know either but apparently he's a hot halfcast dude, lol. all the filo girls rave about him =.=" down south? is it scary living out in the wilderness?

her
I know I know it's shameful, but down south isn't so bad.. it's mostly everybody else that lives in whoop whoop! where bouts are you situated? wow so maybe I should start getting into this Gerald Anderson guy aswell lol.

me
nar the north is better, cos we have places like elizabeth and saulisbury, hahaha. i'm in north adelaide, it's really close to town so i can get to uni easily. btw i forgot to ask, are you studying or working or...? and yes, you totally should get into him, i got into him and he made me realise i'm gay. damn that man. lmao.
this will have to be the last comment for tonight, so goodnight and it was nice meeting you! you seem like a really cool person. *seem*
lol

her [sent the following morning]
i had a feeling you lived up that way lol. im working at the moment.. still trying to figure out what i want to study lol. haha well no offence but he does look like a bit of a pretty boy, but hey whatever floats your boat lol!

me
how did u know?! i'm kinda like that too, not sure if i made the right choice. what do you work as? i suppose if things go poorly i'll join the army, navy, police force or become a pro bodybuilder or underwear model, like gerald ^^ i like how you said lol after every sentence btw, lol.

her
haha I didn't even notice all the lols! haha umm you just looked as if your from up north I don't know why though lol. what you studying? I'm working as a receptionist at a doctors surgery. so do you compete? every guy nowadays seems like they want to be a body builder.. enlighten me? lol.. Gerald Anderson.. uh still not convinced about that guy hehe.

me
i totally get it, i've gotten into the bad habit of saying 'lol' even in person, it's so sad...lol. i'm studying highschool teaching, thinking of teaching in japan or something later on :) receptionist? that sounds...boring, haha...is it? i plan to compete this year, i mainly need to work on definition cos my size seems decent, though more mass would be good, especially to my calves, forearms and posterior delts. you're probably not that interested but i decided to share it anyway, it was our special moment =D it's a wonderful sport, though it's a lifestyle too - you're either in it or you're not. wbu? do you exercise or just spend time on fb? :p

p.s - i never really thought gerald was that great, i think i was peer pressured into thinking it cos the filo girls looooove him =.= and on that note i conclude this massive comment =p

[sent last night and expecting a reply soon]
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Master Don Juan
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You should of transitioned a long time ago. Too much fluff talk. Try and frame the conversation into something where it gives you an excuse to ask her out. Or tell her you're busy and got to run and ask to exchange numbers.
 

trainee Don Juan

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yer i'm going to set up the date as soon as possible, it may seem a lil long winded but gess i was building up rapport. if it doesn't work there's always plenty others to online game on :)
 
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