What do I do with my LJBF

[SoSly]

Okay this is VERY confusing for me. There is this girl I've known all of highschool, but we only started talking 4 months ago , Im still an AFC , but Im definitely moving away from it. LETS get this out of the way right away , she's had/has a boyfriend through all of this. Anyway , right from the start she gave me tons of IOIs but I didnt know what they were cuz I was an idiot. At least every couple weeks she would compliment me on my clothing , she complimented me on my voice... So I started talking to her a lot more and I mean a lot I'd stay up at night and talk for hours (IM A ****ING RETARD) , we hung out once she said "You have a great body , like it looks nice." Then one night she asked me "Do you think we would have been good together". Then about 3 weeks ago she said "Is it weird that I get jealous when you are attracted to other girls" IMO this is a huge IOI , YET I confessed my feelings like a retard about 2 months before this , and she is like Im gonna be with my boyfriend for a long time and I dont want to ruin anything... So I freeze her out after the "JEALOUSY" comment. 2 weeks after the freeze she messages me and is like "i dont care anymore good luck in life , if you wanna be my friend again HOLLA"


WHAT DO I DO? Do I basically say Im done , I dont want to be your friend ? Hangout and make a move even though she is in a serious relationship?

My whole summer was me trying to get her and I literally didnt even look at another girl , parties were nothing to me.

 

[SoSly]

Any ideas ?

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Keep her as your friend. I don't get why so many people on here say to lose a chick if she LJBF you.. To me it just screams jealousy and insecurity. Unless it's just a random skank from a night club that you only want to see for sex.

Keep your distance with her though, only contact her if it's absolutely necessary.. If you see her regularly (ex: school, work etc..) Just say Hi make small talk for a minute or two and move on.

Eventually she'll re-establish contact with you.. Most likely when she's single and up for grabs again. In the meantime, talk to other girls. I'm sure she has at least one attractive single friend.

 

[HalfAddict]

How does not keeping a troupe of girl "friends" scream jealousy and insecurity?

Last thing I want is to be "friends" with a chick I am attracted to because it is not fun to be around a chick with whom you are smitten and cannot do anything about it. Also no contact is key in getting over oneitis, and guess what, this guy is suffering from grade A ***** on the pedestal oneitis.

You made the right move initiating no contact and now you MUST stick to your guns, it may suck but it must be done. It is the only way you are going to get over it, this chick is pretty much going to string you along till the end of your days.

She says things like that because she desires your attention, you are an ego boost. But while you are giving her ego boost keep in mind her boyfriend is the one she is going home to **** after you make her feel like a million bucks.

 

[SoSly]

Keep her as your friend. I don't get why so many people on here say to lose a chick if she LJBF you.. To me it just screams jealousy and insecurity. Unless it's just a random skank from a night club that you only want to see for sex.

Keep your distance with her though, only contact her if it's absolutely necessary.. If you see her regularly (ex: school, work etc..) Just say Hi make small talk for a minute or two and move on.

Eventually she'll re-establish contact with you.. Most likely when she's single and up for grabs again. In the meantime, talk to other girls. I'm sure she has at least one attractive single friend.

I dont really wanna stay friends with someone I have a bad case of oneitis with ... like she actually made me depressed because I wanted her so bad I couldn't have her...

Also @Alex , this girl literally has the amount of friends I could count on one hand. She has her boyfriend , and like one girl friend . THose are literally the only people she hangs out with . So no she doesnt.

 

[sodbuster]

"well, my friends would help me get laid" "lets go out and you help me meet women"

 

[thevilittletroll]

i use all my LJBF's as bait to game other chicks. LJBF's are just girls i havent banged yet. if i get LJBF'ed i try and get a couple of them together and head out to the clubs. i'll open them with a good opinion opener, get them talking to each other, and just bail so i can game other chicks. trust me if you are at the club 2 or 3 hot chicks, your social proof and pre-selection values will go throught the roof. plus if the girls you took there get a little jealous, thats all you needed to hook up with them anyway. win win situation.