"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What do I do to not Fall in Love

Ladiesssman

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I feel like I'm in love with my girl. However, it's not a soothing feeling because I have to think about her all the time.

I'm sure many of you dj have had this feeling. What do you do in this case???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Ladiesssman
I feel like I'm in love with my girl. However, it's not a soothing feeling because I have to think about her all the time.

I'm sure many of you dj have had this feeling. What do you do in this case???
break up with her and hope i meet a slutty girl that doesnt cheat.
 

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The nagging is you worrying if she will return your affection

Try to stop thinking about being able to keep the relationship together, and focus on stuff you like to do instead.
 

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I just don't want to be too emotionally attached. I keep myself from getting heart trouble. You know what it's like to be in this stage. I'll do my best to enjoy my other hobbies.
 

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Re: Re: What do I do to not Fall in Love

Originally posted by BLUEox117
break up with her and hope i meet a slutty girl that doesnt cheat.
LMAO, words to live by.

Don't ever trust what a woman says, ever!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok, so your 'in love' with your girlfriend?

if you don't want to fall in love with her because your afraid of getting hurt, things may not work out and your be left with heartache, then your not alone! we all go through it sometime in our life! I believe this is just an insecurity will feel about our future. Don't dwell on it, just enjoy it, relationships are suppose to make your life better, not worse, so if it's making your life worse then it's not for you. if it is, then what's the problem?

it's not bad to feel for someone, it's good! try not to let it become and obsession though, go out with your friends, work at any hobbies you may have etc... but still have time alone with your girlfriend.

don't dwell on bad things, just enjoy the time you have with her! we only get one life, why waste it by focusing on NEGATIVE emotions! your the man!
 

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Get another girl! If you get more girls, you wont be so obsessed over this one girl and you are less likely to fall in love.
 

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"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."

Life is all about experiences, go with the flow, see what it's like to be in love. Sometimes you gotta just stick your neck out there and see what happens.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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aBAzLLnA

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What if it's mutual?
Then what have you got to fear? I'm in the same situation at the moment. I do have an underlying fear of her leaving me, but honestly, I don't care. I've thrown DJ sh!t out the window and have been playing this by ear.
 

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Heed those words!

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."

Life is all about experiences, go with the flow, see what it's like to be in love. Sometimes you gotta just stick your neck out there and see what happens.
 

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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
so now its bad to fall in love with someone?

wow, most men really have turned into heartless @ssholes. Glad i found one that isn't.

Just remember, you're gonna wind up a lonley old man with only his right hand to love him.
I definitely plan on loving a girl one day… I have NOTHING against love… my view on it is that a guy must love SOMEONE, but must NOT love ANYONE;) So before letting yourself love someone, you need to be cautious, because you don’t want to end up getting hurt… but on the other hand, u must not be afraid to take risks etc… so I say that if you THINK that a girl is “love material” and YOU love HER, then go for it! But just be cautious on WHO you let yourself love.


Laterz…
 

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Just a few questions:

Does this girl like you? Do you think she will fall in love with you as well? Why would you want to avoid falling in love?

There are 2 options:
1, She likes you and you like her. In this case, why not fall in love?
2, She is neutral and you like her. In this case, try not to show your feelings because it could place her in the position of power. (something which is not very attractive to women)

But if both of you like each other, there is nothing against falling in love. It's a wonderful feelings.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
I definitely plan on loving a girl one day… I have NOTHING against love… my view on it is that a guy must love SOMEONE, but must NOT love ANYONE;) So before letting yourself love someone, you need to be cautious, because you don’t want to end up getting hurt… but on the other hand, u must not be afraid to take risks etc… so I say that if you THINK that a girl is “love material” and YOU love HER, then go for it! But just be cautious on WHO you let yourself love.


Laterz…
I wasn't criticizing you, but the original poster. I think thats wonderful that you feel that way. Good for you. I do believe that you do need to be cautious, but also trusting. and never stop being who you are.
 

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Who you talking to? *sigh*

Originally posted by Double
the poor clueless guy!!
Please state who u are addressing in future posts. Thanx.


Laterz...
 
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