I was in the friend zone for awhile, and somehow got out of it. I tried something risky, and kissed her on the forehead to see if she had some feelings for me. She told me she liked it, and the very next day, we kissed. Now this is where it gets weird. I haven't asked her out or anything, and when I did, she told me to give her some time, due to her being busy with school and such (she's rank 5 out of whole school) and how she didn't want a boyfriend to distract her for now. I agreed, and its been 4 days or so. We've been constantly making out and such, but I'm not sure anymore. Any tips on what to do? Is she in it for the romance?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What do I do now?
- Thread starter JayKay
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The way I see it, you have 2 choices. Option 1 is that you should just be friends with her because she might seriously be focusing on her academics and her future. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you can just move on to another girl.
Option 2 is telling her straight up that you guys need to meet up now or never. You see, by letting her decide whether or not you guys should be in a relationship, you automatically give her the power to do whatever she wants, you are unintentionally giving her all the power in the relationship. I don't think you want that! Good Luck in your decision.
Option 2 is telling her straight up that you guys need to meet up now or never. You see, by letting her decide whether or not you guys should be in a relationship, you automatically give her the power to do whatever she wants, you are unintentionally giving her all the power in the relationship. I don't think you want that! Good Luck in your decision.
AH909
Don Juan
So she is into you but she doesnt want a relationship? Sounds like a win-win to me. Your in a perfect situatiom to make her a FWB(friend with benefits) Tell her youve changed your mind about being in a full relationship and say it would be best for both of us if we werent. Then go on to say that you still like her and want to keep hanging out. And your not in a full commitment with her so you can still talk to other girls.
BPH
Master Don Juan
This.AH909 said:
I don't know how this didn't occur to you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BPH
Master Don Juan
You're making out with her and have the possibility of sex...JayKay said:
Why would you want to ruin that just to have so you can change your relationship status on Facebook...
AH909
Don Juan
Your letting her control the relationship. One of the first rules of high school game is to never ask a girl to be exclusive with you. It gives her the control. When you dont pop the question she will ask herself "why isnt he asking me?" or even better "is he talking to another girl?" Then she will ask you to be exclusive, which gives YOU the control in the relationship and at that point you can decide if you want to be exclusive or not. And in the meantime you can still fudge her as much as you want 
So you are afraid of her telling to people that you just a random guy she makes out with?JayKay said:
I want you to stop thinking this, it will make you more harm than good. She is interested enough in you to make out with you. Why not invite her to your place and do your thing? After that she will be the one wondering what you two are if you keep it cool.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Analyzeit
Senior Don Juan
You shouldnt be afraid of her saying this for a start.
But this girl being an academic i know what they are like...
First of all i really doubt your chances of getting a friends with benefits thing especially if you say i dont want a relationship either we should just hang...
Sure it might work, but if you keep it in her head that there is a chance of a relationship it'll work out better for you, this is highschool not the real world yet.
Just keep it going man, you've got something going with this girl. keep it going and just hang out and stuff. Your a long way off having to next this girl.
High school girls love relationships (not the sluts but this girl doesn't really sound like one)
Lukes last post is dead right, do it.
But this girl being an academic i know what they are like...
First of all i really doubt your chances of getting a friends with benefits thing especially if you say i dont want a relationship either we should just hang...
Sure it might work, but if you keep it in her head that there is a chance of a relationship it'll work out better for you, this is highschool not the real world yet.
Just keep it going man, you've got something going with this girl. keep it going and just hang out and stuff. Your a long way off having to next this girl.
High school girls love relationships (not the sluts but this girl doesn't really sound like one)
Lukes last post is dead right, do it.