I was in the friend zone for awhile, and somehow got out of it. I tried something risky, and kissed her on the forehead to see if she had some feelings for me. She told me she liked it, and the very next day, we kissed. Now this is where it gets weird. I haven't asked her out or anything, and when I did, she told me to give her some time, due to her being busy with school and such (she's rank 5 out of whole school) and how she didn't want a boyfriend to distract her for now. I agreed, and its been 4 days or so. We've been constantly making out and such, but I'm not sure anymore. Any tips on what to do? Is she in it for the romance?
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
What do I do now?
- Thread starter JayKay
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The way I see it, you have 2 choices. Option 1 is that you should just be friends with her because she might seriously be focusing on her academics and her future. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you can just move on to another girl.
Option 2 is telling her straight up that you guys need to meet up now or never. You see, by letting her decide whether or not you guys should be in a relationship, you automatically give her the power to do whatever she wants, you are unintentionally giving her all the power in the relationship. I don't think you want that! Good Luck in your decision.
Option 2 is telling her straight up that you guys need to meet up now or never. You see, by letting her decide whether or not you guys should be in a relationship, you automatically give her the power to do whatever she wants, you are unintentionally giving her all the power in the relationship. I don't think you want that! Good Luck in your decision.
AH909
Don Juan
So she is into you but she doesnt want a relationship? Sounds like a win-win to me. Your in a perfect situatiom to make her a FWB(friend with benefits) Tell her youve changed your mind about being in a full relationship and say it would be best for both of us if we werent. Then go on to say that you still like her and want to keep hanging out. And your not in a full commitment with her so you can still talk to other girls.
BPH
Master Don Juan
This.AH909 said:
I don't know how this didn't occur to you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BPH
Master Don Juan
You're making out with her and have the possibility of sex...JayKay said:
Why would you want to ruin that just to have so you can change your relationship status on Facebook...
AH909
Don Juan
Your letting her control the relationship. One of the first rules of high school game is to never ask a girl to be exclusive with you. It gives her the control. When you dont pop the question she will ask herself "why isnt he asking me?" or even better "is he talking to another girl?" Then she will ask you to be exclusive, which gives YOU the control in the relationship and at that point you can decide if you want to be exclusive or not. And in the meantime you can still fudge her as much as you want 
So you are afraid of her telling to people that you just a random guy she makes out with?JayKay said:
I want you to stop thinking this, it will make you more harm than good. She is interested enough in you to make out with you. Why not invite her to your place and do your thing? After that she will be the one wondering what you two are if you keep it cool.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Analyzeit
Senior Don Juan
You shouldnt be afraid of her saying this for a start.
But this girl being an academic i know what they are like...
First of all i really doubt your chances of getting a friends with benefits thing especially if you say i dont want a relationship either we should just hang...
Sure it might work, but if you keep it in her head that there is a chance of a relationship it'll work out better for you, this is highschool not the real world yet.
Just keep it going man, you've got something going with this girl. keep it going and just hang out and stuff. Your a long way off having to next this girl.
High school girls love relationships (not the sluts but this girl doesn't really sound like one)
Lukes last post is dead right, do it.
But this girl being an academic i know what they are like...
First of all i really doubt your chances of getting a friends with benefits thing especially if you say i dont want a relationship either we should just hang...
Sure it might work, but if you keep it in her head that there is a chance of a relationship it'll work out better for you, this is highschool not the real world yet.
Just keep it going man, you've got something going with this girl. keep it going and just hang out and stuff. Your a long way off having to next this girl.
High school girls love relationships (not the sluts but this girl doesn't really sound like one)
Lukes last post is dead right, do it.