what do i do now

[Bryce556]

ok so after i got this girls number i liked, i called her. this is how it went

Her: hello
me:hi, can i speak to Leia please
Her: thats me
Me: hey, its bryce
her: Oh, hey!
Me:so what have you been up to

(random chit chat here)

Me: so waht are you up to this saturday
Her:working (at this point i thought she said "nothing" i misheard)
Me:so you wanna come to the mall and hang out?
Her: i said i was working
Me: umm err i mishead you
Her: nice one
Me: so are you free at all this week
Her: (expalins whats shes doing this week breifly, shes busy)
Me: What about next week
Her: i donno
Me: ill give you my number then, (i give it to her she gets paper and writes it down)
Me:so have a good evning then
Her: bye
Me: bye


alright well she has my number now. So is she gona call or what? can i do anything in the interm or should i call her again? her friend said that its true shes busy all this week. Anything i can do?

 

[smooth guy]

It doesn't seem she's interested.

 

[StoneColdFox]

Wow.

Um.

Yeah, definitely not interested.

This part is the part that probably got you..

(random chit chat here)

The more time you spend of the phone, the more likely you are to say something dumb.

Try to keep phone conversations short.

I understand that in high school it seems to be all the kids do these days, but you should try to make things short and sweet.

I would've gone with something like,

Hey, it's Bryce, how are you?

I'm going to the mall this saturday, you should go.

She tells you she's busy.

Well I got your number and you got mine, keep in touch if plans change.

end.

Something to that extent.

And since she said no, call another girl, don't become all oneitis on us.


Now, It seems like her interest level may have been low before getting her number, but I don't know.


And you went to her friend to confirm her busy story?

Ouch, way to make you seem like a stalker when that gets back to her.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

girls usually don't call, so if you persue her, you'll end up calling everytime and making a fool of yourself :\

talk to her in real life before you call her next, and ask her if she wants to hang out.

 

[jtrain 289]

read anti dumps's machine if she fluffs on your phone call forget about her get another girl.

 

[GaryUranga]

I think the way you asked her out wansnt the most secure to ensure success

 

[Bryce556]

well her friend was a male, hes also a semi friend of mine, i just mentoned she said she was busy and he said ya she is.

i wont see her in person till school starts again...

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

hmmm try calling in like a week.. you'll probably be able to hang out before school starts again.

 

[GaryUranga]

id say drop it for now till school starts

 

[Bryce556]

haha funny thing bout the "next one" advice i have no next girl to go to lol, ive tryed with it seems like everygirl i know in my school and some from other things i go to, that i would consider going out with. used every girl up. so this is like my one last chance before i finish highschool this coming school year.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

hey don't worry about highschool and start preparing yourself for college. you'll have plenty of oppertunities there and a whole lot more women to choose from.

 

[Alkali]

Stone Cold Fox is a very intelligent person. I haven't seen him write anything that I would disagree with. I'd consider his advice above others.

 

[StoneColdFox]

Awww. Thanks.

 

[Bryce556]

can i msg her on face book and say somthing to the effect of calling me or hanging out? like if i can what should i say?

 

[StoneColdFox]

It's been two days Bryce, why haven't you found another girl yet?!?

You're still obsessing over this one???

You know what, No. No you cannot message her on facebook.

How ya like them apples?







*sigh* ok ok ok i'll help you.

Seems like you're devoloping oneitis with this girl, or you're just not confident enough to talk to other women, so cut that out. Go find other women, knowing you have girls to fall back on makes rejection alot easier. Even if you don't have other girls to fall back on you should still have the mindset of.. "So what if this girl rejects me, I can have any girl I want". AND YOU CAN!! Just believe in yourself and stop obsessing over this one chick.

If she hasn't talked to you since yalls last conversation.. then um.. she's not interested accept it. get over it. find a new one.

go ahead and write her own facebook, perhaps it might somehow in some some way regain interest? But it probably won't.

If you write back just keep it brief, keep it light, don't look like a moron.

 

[EdHunter]

I was in a similar situation earlier this summer---my one or two prospects were flaking like a biscuit...but I wouldn't let them go because I was afraid of having no other options.
Then one day I woke up and gave myself a swift kick in the @ss...namely, I went back and reread Pook's stuff...and reminded myself that
YOU DON'T NEED A CHICK TO BE HAPPY!