what do i do in this situation?

[aballer2323]

hey fellows, i have a quick question.

i text a girl about doing somehting, and she responds with soemthing along the lines of "my friends (girls) might have something planned already, but if they don't, i'd love to go (insert place) with you." how should i respond in this situation? i don't want to make it sound like im free anytime and am vying for her time; it should be the other way around. also, i'm in college so i don't think shes trying to play a complicated mind game or something. does it mean that shes not interested and i should just move on to the next one?

 

[TopGun2000]

just say you will plan something else if she't not sure. you will find another good time for both of you to get together.

 

[8ball]

Just say "sounds good, let me know" and then go do something else.

 

[armourknight]

jus reply "ok cool." and like ^ said, go do something else !
well, she said "she wud love to go with you" which means, she might be interested. So if she, does call up really soon and says she's ready, go along with the date. If she takes up her own time to reply back, get urself busy with some other stuff, and post-pone the date !

 

[Nutz]

hey fellows, i have a quick question.

i text a girl about doing somehting, and she responds with soemthing along the lines of "my friends (girls) might have something planned already, but if they don't, i'd love to go (insert place) with you." how should i respond in this situation? i don't want to make it sound like im free anytime and am vying for her time; it should be the other way around. also, i'm in college so i don't think shes trying to play a complicated mind game or something. does it mean that shes not interested and i should just move on to the next one?

She just told you you're playing second fiddle, if you're even in the band at all.

Your response is "cool" or "k" and mentally write her off. She's way low interest based on what she texted. Doubly so in that she didn't offer an alternative plan to meet.

If she swings back around because she doesn't have anything better to do, then maybe she'll not flake.

 

[Scars]

She just told you you're playing second fiddle, if you're even in the band at all.

Your response is "cool" or "k" and mentally write her off. She's way low interest based on what she texted. Doubly so in that she didn't offer an alternative plan to meet.

If she swings back around because she doesn't have anything better to do, then maybe she'll not flake.

This.

She's going to flake. She'd rather have a girls night out and potentially meet another guy who is better, rather than hang out with you. She'd rather take a chance and come home with nothing than go with what's "for sure". (Probably because you made yourself too available, so the key is to correct that. Her interest is extremely low. As nutz said, mentally write her off. She is just toying with you, so stop wasting your time. If she comes back into rotation it's because she's bored or has no other options, don't think she'll be any different next time around. Take the time to improve yourself, or start chatting up a new girl.

-Scars

 

[Aaron B]

call her on her wishy-washy bull****

then figure out why you are focused on this one woman instead of getting digits from many different women

when you have a list of women to work from you aren't dependent on any one of them

your date invitation is an opportunity and if she's unwilling to take advantage of it for any reason, its her loss not yours

your challenge may very well stem from not being comfortable approaching new women and getting their phone numbers

if that is the case, focus on getting good at approaching and getting digits

if a woman told me what she told you, i would tell her "that's not going to work for me, maybe i'll give you a call sometime" then hang up

or maybe something like "nevermind, i'll give janet a call"