What do i do in this situation?

[Sikanhe]

This girls goes to near by college and dorms there. She comes back to her home, where i live on a irregular basis.
Question is how can I lock her down on a date for a first date without loosing control or initiative?
I have alrdy asked her this weekend but shes busy with school.
i have thought about goin over to her area but is there anything else that can work for the area im familiar with?

 

[BettorOffSingle]

This girls goes to near by college and dorms there. She comes back to her home, where i live on a irregular basis.
Question is how can I lock her down on a date for a first date without loosing control or initiative?
I have alrdy asked her this weekend but shes busy with school.
i have thought about goin over to her area but is there anything else that can work for the area im familiar with?

Only thing you can do is treat her as if she rejected you, and either put her in the friend zone (no further pursuit), or just stop talking to her until she becomes a "returning fox" (usually they come back once they realized they'velost power over you).

You likely have bigger issues, however, since even if she does return, you'd have to know how to escalate, which if you knew in the first place, wouldn't have you in this position. As a shortcut, just act like you took her hints, hold your ground, and let her walk. Make like you have other options if she presses, and that you don't need 'game players." This too is a tough sell, since a guy with those other options wouldn't be trying so hard to "date"her but would instead just ISOLATE with her and accomplish there what you think needs to be done on a date.

Isolation and talking is better than dating becuase there is no pressure on her to put out at the end.

 

[bigneil]

If you asked her out and she says she is too busy, the ball is in her court. NC until she contacts you.

 

[BettorOffSingle]

If you asked her out and she says she is too busy, the ball is in her court. NC until she contacts you.

That's my "one and done" rule from my *1998* book "Outfoxing The Foxes." When she contacts him, she is a "returning fox."

At the time, the wannabe PUAs said this was too "passive." Glad to see common sense and results prevailing. This has long been a bread-and-butter tactic of mine.

Some rules on returning foxes:

1. Ask for EVERYTHING you want on her return, or don't even ask. Do NOT say "make it up to me" becuase this gives her a chance to reject you again.

2. Don't even acknowledge what she did wrong, since her return is an admission of same. Also discount any attempt by her to say she's "just saying hi." A good question to stop this is "Okay, what changed."

3. She may bail out again to test you. If she does, let her do so. She'll be back again.

What makes one-and-done;returning fox so strong is that a) it requires little effort, as all you're doing is ignoring them, b) you can run it on an unlimited number of women, and c) anytime it works, you have a clear upper hand.