"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do I do if I have real problems?

sparkogre

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Hey guys

I'm a high schooler, and I used to be utterly socially inept. I discovered pick-up about 3 years ago, and I'm vastly changed. I still have some social skill issues, but for the most part life is good.

I've always had kind of like "mental breakdowns." For example, yesterday I was ****ing crying HARD, and I had a big knife in my hand and luckily I didn't hurt myself. The issue is, I don't want to take the risk that sometime I will kill myself. Right now though, I feel perfectly fine, maybe a little mopey, but not suicidal.

I am smart, handsome, have a well-off family. No outside problems. So wtf do I do?

When I had no friends and was fat, I used to think that taking care of the outside stuff would change the inside. It really hasn't.

Anybody got any book recommendations or anything? My family doesn't know, and I don't want to tell them, so for the time being, a therapist is out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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piranha45

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Have you seen psychiatrists/psychologists to see if you have some known mental disorder?
 

lchck

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EFT (Emotional freedom technique). PM me if you need more details.
 
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