"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do I do for her birthday?

PumpingIron13

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Well we hung out like 3 times but only 2 really counted, i posted about it in the discussion, night went good with kino then she went cold so i think shes testing me and i wanna kinda give her space and not care and have her come back to me, however we are actually pretty close and her birthday is in 3 days... any suggestions
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LongDrinkofWater

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Well, don't give her anything. You barely know her.
IF she does not know that you know her birthday, surprise her in a subtle way like "btw, happy birthday". Just say it in an offhand way during casual conversation. That's all. She'll quickly pick up on the fact that you've been paying attention. If you aren't registering anywhere on her creep-o-meter, then you'll probably get a positive response.
 

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if she got something for u for ur bday, get her something small. like a piece of fruit.

however, if she did not then u shall not.
 

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Just hung out 2 times,and you wanna give her something for her birthday?Man,thats AFC behaviour.Like Swinggcat says..You're the prize!Now I know he means something else by saying 'youre the prize',but think of yourself as the prize right now.Read on.

So just go up to her and do this,believe me it will work.

'Hey,happy birthday.Your present is that you get to hang out with me for 15 minutes.This is one birthday you wont forget.'

This may sound really weird to you at first,but it actually is really very ****y.And if she says something like,'What kind of a present is that?' or something of similar meaning,you can say,"The best you're getting."
 

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haha i dont wanna get anything its just that shes gotten *****y so im ignoring her completly to show her i could care less if thats how she wants to be
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What im gunna do is not talk to her until her bday which is in like 3 days then ill im her or someting n just be like hey happy birthday(she knows i know what day it is) and shell porbly be like we havent talked in a while bla blah n ill just be like yo i gtg right now actually ill ttyl, n i ll go do something better with my life like lift weights
 

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oh damn you lift weights too,dude??i should've paid attention to your name before lol.

How long you been lifting man?I've been at it for an year now,can bench 230 and DL 320.How about you?
 

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Just been lifting seriously for about like 6 months or so my bench is only around 200, to be honest i do almost more freeweight and dumbell stuff then straight bench. Tryin to shape my bulk. Takin EC right now
 

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PumpingIron13 said:
Well we hung out like 3 times but only 2 really counted, i posted about it in the discussion, night went good with kino then she went cold so i think shes testing me and i wanna kinda give her space and not care and have her come back to me, however we are actually pretty close and her birthday is in 3 days... any suggestions

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