So I was seeing this girl from work for about 4 months, and everything was going great. Communication was rock solid, we had heavy interest in each other, and each other's bodies. We talked about making things public when the unexpected happened. Her grandfather started to reach the stages of passing. It should be stated that her grandpa was more of her father growing up, than her real father who was a drug-addicted/abusive criminal. Unable to afford home-care, He moved in with her and she became his caretaker. The guy had it rough, showing high dementia, and a tendency to scream out in the night that he wanted to die.
She told me the night before he moved in that she was afraid I'd leave her because she wouldn't have a social life for a time, to which I said I wouldn't. Then things became hard. We would try and talk when we could, but it was months of strain that eventually led to me asking if she needed time away from having a relationship, to which she said "yes" that she only had time for taking care of him. From there I would only text every couple weeks to check in on her. About a month ago her grandfather passed away, and she now will rarely answer my texts, or any of our mutual friends. I see her at work and there is some of the old 'us' when we speak, but with a slight awkwardness now. And again, she doesn't text me anymore. I finally tried to ask about where I still stand and she starts heading for the door, saying "No. We're not talking about this." I replied "Never?" and she said "Maybe later, but not today." in a kinda stressed tone.
It's now been two days since that conversation. My question is what do I do? Not texting her for a while pops into my head, but I'm afraid she'll take that as me forgetting about her, and she'll look somewhere else eventually. Have I ruined it?
Good advice would help y'all ASAP.
She told me the night before he moved in that she was afraid I'd leave her because she wouldn't have a social life for a time, to which I said I wouldn't. Then things became hard. We would try and talk when we could, but it was months of strain that eventually led to me asking if she needed time away from having a relationship, to which she said "yes" that she only had time for taking care of him. From there I would only text every couple weeks to check in on her. About a month ago her grandfather passed away, and she now will rarely answer my texts, or any of our mutual friends. I see her at work and there is some of the old 'us' when we speak, but with a slight awkwardness now. And again, she doesn't text me anymore. I finally tried to ask about where I still stand and she starts heading for the door, saying "No. We're not talking about this." I replied "Never?" and she said "Maybe later, but not today." in a kinda stressed tone.
It's now been two days since that conversation. My question is what do I do? Not texting her for a while pops into my head, but I'm afraid she'll take that as me forgetting about her, and she'll look somewhere else eventually. Have I ruined it?
Good advice would help y'all ASAP.