"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What do guys think about this?
- Thread starter BlahUgh
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Not this male!
Overall though, some good points. Women "flirt" instinctively, and men are easy. Women hate when men talk too much.
If men learned how to qualify to determine if she is interested in you, they wouldn't be worried about insignificant flirting signals.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
what a load of crap.
I'm a master at telling which girls are interested or not.
You can just tell by the way they look at you.
My success rate with pickups is in the high 90% range, for this reason. I never approach a girl that doesn't give me "The Eyes".
It's a very obvious inviting gaze. That's a woman's role, and it's up to us to take the initiative to approach, if we so feel like it.
Just last night, I was at a local bar with some buds just chillin'... We had just gotten out of a long writing/studio session and I wasn't really looking to pickup or anything... plus this place wasn't exactly babe central. The hottest chick in the place was an 8.5 on my scale.... Anyways, I told my friends that a certain girl was interested... They said "how do you know?" I said I can just tell. She's giving me "The Eyes". It's very subtle, but I could tell....
She hjad a rocket body, but her face wasn't so great. She could be super hot, but it looks like she smoked way too many cigarettes and her face was really dull and aged, if you know what i mean. She was only about 23yrs old, so it's a shame.
Anyways, I just shook it off cause i wasn't that interested.
Well, we were walking down the street a little later and this car passes us and then just hits the brakes. The driver starts yelling "Hey buddy, come here... someone wants to see you.." I walk up to the car and it was that girl. She gave me her# right then and there, much to the dismay of the 4 guys she was with...and to the astonishment of my friends... hahaha... They told me after" Man, you got the gift. lol"
How's that for not interested?
I'm a master at telling which girls are interested or not.
You can just tell by the way they look at you.
My success rate with pickups is in the high 90% range, for this reason. I never approach a girl that doesn't give me "The Eyes".
It's a very obvious inviting gaze. That's a woman's role, and it's up to us to take the initiative to approach, if we so feel like it.
Just last night, I was at a local bar with some buds just chillin'... We had just gotten out of a long writing/studio session and I wasn't really looking to pickup or anything... plus this place wasn't exactly babe central. The hottest chick in the place was an 8.5 on my scale.... Anyways, I told my friends that a certain girl was interested... They said "how do you know?" I said I can just tell. She's giving me "The Eyes". It's very subtle, but I could tell....
She hjad a rocket body, but her face wasn't so great. She could be super hot, but it looks like she smoked way too many cigarettes and her face was really dull and aged, if you know what i mean. She was only about 23yrs old, so it's a shame.
Anyways, I just shook it off cause i wasn't that interested.
Well, we were walking down the street a little later and this car passes us and then just hits the brakes. The driver starts yelling "Hey buddy, come here... someone wants to see you.." I walk up to the car and it was that girl. She gave me her# right then and there, much to the dismay of the 4 guys she was with...and to the astonishment of my friends... hahaha... They told me after" Man, you got the gift. lol"
How's that for not interested?
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
"The Eyes" dont always tell you whether a girl is interested or not. The other night this bangin hot chic stared me in the eyes for a good 3 to 4 seconds. I thought well she must be interested until she did the same thing to some of my boys and a bunch of other guys in the bar.
She might have visited this site and tried a little experiment on us dumb guys to see if it would work.
She might have visited this site and tried a little experiment on us dumb guys to see if it would work.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
One look isn't enough.
You will catch her stealing glances, and that's how you know.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Yup
It's not to say that every chick that looks at you is into you, but I'm talking about a certain gaze that you just know it's on.
Yup I thought so. I've seen it too, and the more it sparkles the more interest she eventually ends up showing. I think it's pupil dilation, because the more the pupil dilates the more of it you can see (with you seeing less iris), and since the pupil is black more light reflects off it giving the sparkling effect.Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
Yup
It's not to say that every chick that looks at you is into you, but I'm talking about a certain gaze that you just know it's on.
I think we guys are subconciously supposed to recognize this as a mating sign or something.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Well I wouldn't read too much into it.... it's just a look.