What do do when she tries making you jealous?

[Vice]

This thread has been done to death, but because of that there's going to be a quick reply.

Recently the girl I've been hanging out with likes to mention other guys to make me jealous. What is the best way to respond to this?

 

[LostAndConfused]

Don't let it get to you --- that action is petty.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Stop comparing yourself to these other guys in your head when she mentions them, it's making you self conscious.

 

[Gustav Yavo]

the best way to respond to it is to not respond to it, ignore it, and change the subject.

 

[AdventureGuy]

shes trying to make u jealous an realise that you are lucky to have her . guess the reason women or men (unless they are messed up) try an make there bf/gf jealous all DJ stuff aside . is cos they feel like they aint getting appreciated an want/expect you to show em some appreciation an are making a point that they dont have to be with you .but are choicing to be ..so think about it .. i'd say don't react or don't give her everything she wants so easy . but if you really want her . just give her a little an show a bit more interest an appreciation for her ..but make her realise that she needs to appreciate you aswell an makie her jealous ... just aslong as you dont make it obvious you are trying to make her jealous an just say things casually an not like you were expecting a huge reaction or any disaproval .. if she bites the bait .. she will go mad.. then you can play it cool an say .. didnt realise it was such a big deal . calm down ect

 

[JLR]

I would initially ignore it. If she continues, I turn the tables & give her a taste of her own medicine.

 

[muscleman]

It means nothing. So what if she talks about other guys? The girl I just started seeing mentions her ex every now and then. I don't mention mine (though she still asks about them) but I really don't care.

What Gustav said. One thing I've learned thus far is when a girl says something you feel you can't respond to in a constructive way, just don't say anything.

 

[Obsidian]

I'd ignore it up to a point. If she just keeps harping about it, I'd probably roll my eyes and make some sarcastic comment to get the point across that she's ANNOYING me with her nonsense.

And if she talks about doing serious things (kissing, dating, f*cking) with other guys or just won't stfu after you try to get her to stop, I'd probably next.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Yea, ignore it and if she keeps on trying, just let her see u approach and game another girl(not actually full out pick her up tho), when ur somewhere together and she brings it up again, and feast ur eyes on the "OMG!" look she gives at the situation. haha.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I ignore it and go about my business. Or I'll play her game and hit on other girls infront of her.

 

[Bible_Belt]

What do do when she tries making you jealous?

like iafyb said, ignore and make her jealous. Fight fire with fire.

 

[Obsidian]

and make her jealous. Fight fire with fire

i've never had a whole lot of luck trying that myself

 

[EastWind]

Point being, if she mentions some guy or flirts with another guy in front of you and you immediately go and game a girl, it makes you look try-hard. Plus, girls aren't so stupid as to not see the action-reaction connection. So just… do nothing. As mentioned above, if she talks about some dude and you can't constructively respond, say nothing and/or start a new thread of discussion. Or you can say "D'you… do you think I'd like him? Maybe you could… invite him over one evening. Just for dinner, of course… grin."

Another issue is that of… it just shouldn't get to you. OK, that is random alpha thingy advice, as any human being will feel SOMETHING, but still. Know that itchy feeling when your girl goes talk to another guy, or a guy is hitting on her and you SEE what he's doing? First, if random guys talking to your girl make you nervous to the point where you think she's going to run off with him, you do have some insecurities… and guess what'll happen. It's OK to be THINKING in that situation though, in my eyes. I learned to ENJOY the feeling I get. My brain is trying to tell me something, and it tells me something about myself.

 

[bukowski_merit]

i was recently in a car with a girl and she decided to tell me a story about how she has a deep desire to get with her ex's uncle just once. the reason she wanted to was because one night she got in a big argument with her boyfriend over his uncles house. she ran upstairs crying and happened to run into the uncle in the hallway. he stroked her face gently and said 'it'll be alright baby'. then her boyfriend came up the stairs and that was that.

i didn't say anything the whole time she was telling the story. when she finished, i smiled, stroked her face and said 'aren't you just a lil romantic bug'.

she laughed, told me to shut up, and we moved on to a new subject.

i personally think ignoring the story and making fun of them a little (in a playful manor) is the way to go.

 

[Bible_Belt]

i've never had a whole lot of luck trying that myself

I have. Jealousy in women is a powerful force. Right now I have two GFs, each of whom are exclusive to me and know that I am not exclusive to them. It's the power of jealousy and female competitiveness that allows me to get away with having two girls. Plus, both of them throw themselves at me, because they know they can't be out done by the other girl.

The forces that work against you can always be turned around to work in your favor.

 

[reset]

Yeah I had a little taste of that myself. "Kitty Kats Kompete". And Bible-Belt is being honest and upfront about what he's doing.

Of course if you have jealousy in YOURSELF--that's going to eat you up. You immediately put yourself below any other man, because if any single man can be above you in your own mind, then that means every other man can too.