What direction should I take?

[bigmil]

OK so I've been seeing this girl for about 7 weeks. When I first met her through a friend's wife at work about 3 months ago we got into a conversation about relationships -- specifically about how when people have sex too early in a relationship it usually doesn't last as a LTR.

I told her I think people should wait at least 3 months to start having sex because that way they can get to know and appreciate each other first. Plus, the sex is usually awesome at that point because you have an emotional connection and you respect the girl more.

Now I will only do this with girls I see some value in dating -- a hottie with a future and good personality. Any skanks or random girls I meet in another city I could care less about and will try to fvck.

Here's where I'm at with this chick: Everytime we go out she ends up giving me a hand job and she takes her shirt off and we make out and grind heavy. (this took some working up to). She won't let me finger her. She says it could lead to sex. I asked her last night what the deal was and she brought up my "3-month rule". How do I get her to sleep with me before the 3 months?

Also, I started thinking that maybe she is still fvcking her ex-boyfriend or something because he came over to her apt the other day and installed an AC for her. I was uncomforatble with that but I asked her flat out if they hooked up or are ever still hooking up and she said no they are just friends. They dated for 4 years though and it does make me nervous.

Strangely she seems into me when we are together and she always says yes when I ask her to do something but she seems emotionally distant or something -- I am always the one initiating activites and such. She is kinda shy and guarded though and its hard determining if its her personality or just a lackluster IL.

So what direction should I take? My end goal is to have an LTR with this girl and an active sex life. Should I call her more or what? I rarely call her and never to BS or talk about the day -- I just send e-mails maybe twice a week and discuss any plans for the weekend. Kind of a long post sorry but thanks for your input.

 

[MacDiddy]

I told her I think people should wait at least 3 months to start having sex

You told her and now you won't follow through.... you've lowered your status...

She won't let me finger her.

You've been rejected... you've really lowered your status....

No more talking BS with her... Its time to start taking charge of this relationship and squeeze as much out of it as you can.... Of course she is seeing someone else, and probably fcuking them, since she didn't have any 3months BS holding her slutty behaviour back....

 

[roman]

dude 7 weeks is a long time to go without having sex. you never should have brought up that 3 months rule with her. that was a grave mistake. i made the same mistake with a girl i met through myspace. before we even met i told her i think that people should wait until they have feelings for eachother to have sex. turns out, the first night we met she came over to watch a movie, gave me a blow job, i went down on her and before you know it i was making a move to bang her but she wouldnt have it (she reminded me of what i told her about waiting, just like in your situation). there's no way to back out on your word. you'll just have to pray that she initiates the sex before the 3 months is over. otherwise, find another broad to bang on the side to ease the blue balls syndrome. my advice to you is this: dont call her any more than you already do. stop emailing her and keep it to one call a week tops, just to make plans for the weekend. be a challenge. good luck with this one, but always have another girl lined up.

Roman