"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What did she mean when?

bankai

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I'm not sure how to take the conversation that we had. What are your thoughts? What do you think she meant by the drawn out "suuuurreeee"?

Conversation goes as follows

*after a few minutes of banter*

me: anyways, I called to see if you wanted to do something later in the week.
her: ah ok, what were you thinking of?
me: I don't know, movie, dinner, something like that. There were some places I've been wanting to try.
her: uh suuuuurrreeee.
me: ...you don't sound very sure about that,
her: it's just since I've been back I don't know what movies are out and I've eaten everything that I've been craving for.
me: *jokes* erm I'm not going to comment on that last part. How about this, I'll figure something out and I'll give you a call back and we'll see how you're schedule is later in the week.
her: ok!
me: alright, I'm off, talk to you later.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WhitePimp

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Be more decisive. None of this 'maybe/possibly/don't know' stuff when talking about possible dates. Be firm and direct with your plans to minimize flaking
 

vatoloco

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bankai said:
...How about this, I'll figure something out and I'll give you a call
This should've been your plan to begin with. ;)

You gotta be a "Man with a Plan."
 

Mike32ct

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I agree with the other posters. Have it figured out (time/date and place) before you call her. You should have a primary and a backup plan ready. If it helps, write it all down before you call her.

The backup plan is important because you might first suggest some restaurant she doesn't like or a movie she already saw, etc. You don't want to go quiet if she shoots down your first suggestion.

Never say "I don't know" or "What do you want to do?". It's weak.

Get it all figured out and call her again in a day or two.
 

Bible_Belt

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She doesn't sound very interested. Women will very rarely give you a direct "no." They think ambiguous excuses are much more polite.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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trrush

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yeah i don't think she's interested much in you. even if you had a plan, she would have flaked.
 

rocket87

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Lack of interest. Lack of decisiveness. Fail.

Learn how to attract. Become more decisive. Don't banter. Don't waste your own time. Win.
 

Johnnyventana

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Lack of interest aside -- people need to stop ruining the 'set-up!' Have a plan and tell her what it is. That's fun for you both. The hemming and hawing is ghey and totally ruins the moment. In fact, it becomes tedious. Not exactly what you want.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pimp-sicle

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All the others have pretty much summed it up.

Also she was being sarcastic when she said "surrrrrrrreee" because she knows you want her, yet you were trying to reason and say there was some movies and different food spots you wanted to try.

This is not looking good for you. Part of your issue is the indecisiveness, comes off as not being sure of yourself, insecure etc etc.

Even though this doesn't look promising start by practicing good habits.

Call her back, and have something planned out, set time etc. Be flexible and have two different days as options. If she can't make either, and doesn't counter offer, you know the truth.

Worst case scenario she doesn't answer or call back





PIMP
 

runner83

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Pimp-sicle said:
Call her back, and have something planned out, set time etc. Be flexible and have two different days as options. If she can't make either, and doesn't counter offer, you know the truth.

PIMP
If a woman is interested, she WILL make time to meet up.

Of course, being a wishy washy wvssy (as per your side of the messages) can kill any attraction that was there to start with
 
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