Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what did she mean :P

muttley

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hi DJs, i havent posted much but today i feel i need to cos a girl just confused me today.

a bit of history...
first of all i didnt even know this girl existed until 2 female friends from work who i was smoking a cigarette with told me that X wants to say "hi" to me.

and i was like "whos she? do i know her?" and they proceeded to describe her.
i said "oh ok" and went back to what i was doing.

anway----fast forward a few weeks.

i finally meet X and she sits next to me all afternoon at work, we chat , she giggles, blah blah all afternoon. Anyway from then on she waves and stuff when she goes passed, we talk + flirt a little, i tease her a little , when ever we talk its all smiles.

shes kinda average in my opinion , i dont really care if i get with her or not, infact im not bothered. she has hot friends tho which could be intresting ;)

so .....

today as im walking through the corridor she walks through the opposite doors and i say "hey you , blah blah , nice matching red handbag etc etc"
she says "hi!" and then...

( at this time i was wearing a kinda tight blue jersey )


her: "youve lost weight" (smiling)
me: "heh, i was fat before" (grinning, ****y) *note ive always been skinny and i know

her: "nopes" (smiling)
me: "am i skinnier now :p" (****y)
her: "yeh , u lost weight" (smiling )
me : "yeh i know" (****y, loud)
her : "hehe you look uglier now ..[2 SEC PAUSE].. im joooooooking" (smiling, laffing )
me: "Yeh! i was more handsome then heh" (stayed super cool when i said this)


about me...
i have never been a chubby or fat or overweight person. ive always been skinny. these days im looking more trim + ripped + muscular + broader since i work out more. maybe i have shred a few pounds or something but nothing major since i dont really need to.

anyway, when she said "yeh , u lost weight" , i figure that shes been checking me out to make that remark. and then i totally dont know what she meant when she said "hehe you look uglier now ..[2 SEC PAUSE].. im joooooooking"

wot wot wot?

so did she really mean i look uglier lol
or did she mean something else
or did she just say it
or what
or what what what.

like i said before , im not bothered if i get her or anything , i just wanna know what she meant lol

so dj's waht did she mean?

help a brother out

muttley
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bladeux

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To be honest I just think she said that you're uglier then she realized it was stupid to say that so she went "I'M JOOOOKING!!"

Or she tried to see if you CARED what you look like.

Anyway, that was a really dumb comment on her part. Probably didn't turn you on.
 

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"Im joooking" part tells me she was teasing you, nothing to be alarmed about. From the rapport you have described you have her on your finger, the key is to ACT, she wont wait forever. Ignore the weight and ugly thing, she is only teasing.
 

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*****$lap

No charge for that

You don't care what she thinks nor do you analyse her words.

If she says something stupid, you bust her on it.


Kaine
 

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word, i think she was teasing me , but her words bounced off me, i made sure i didnt show ANY emotion apart from"yeh motherFFFF!" and acted liek i didnt care. thx dudes
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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S0LID

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Arghhhhhhh!!

All the AFCs ask "what did she mean". Wow, i'm getting realy stressed out nowdays with all the repetetiveness, perhaps time for a break :confused:
 

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she means you lost weight since last time she saw you
 

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Have you guys noticed that their is all of a sudden an abundance of women in here, I havent been registered for very long but the last 2 days Ive noticed a trend of a lot of female posters, too many for my liking, where are YOU all coming from? This site is for Men.
 

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Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Have you guys noticed that their is all of a sudden an abundance of women in here, I havent been registered for very long but the last 2 days Ive noticed a trend of a lot of female posters, too many for my liking, where are YOU all coming from? This site is for Men.
if you were referring to me, ive been here for years..
 
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