what could i say to infer i dont accept non-definite times to meet up?

[pete101]

if a HB counter offers in her text to say 'how about late next week?'

and i haven't responded yet, but plan to this weekend.

because i shouldn't agree to any times which aren't 'how about x day at y time?'

if i were to say: sorry for the late reply, i been busy.

what should follow to infer i dont accept counter offers which aren't firm.

would something like 'i only respond to definite times immedaiately'

i need to say this but not in such a way if that makes sense.

any alternatives?

i just need to make the point that if she doesn't offer me a firm time then i'm not gona get back to any time soon.

i could just say 'sorry for the late reply, i been busy'

and just leave it at that. conveying im not interested anymore, but cos i originally said i'll be busy thurs and fri it'll look as if i've failed with my other plates and am contacting her now, making it seem like she's a back up non-option option.

 

[YouKnowI'mRight]

if a HB counter offers in her text to say 'how about late next week?'

and i haven't responded yet, but plan to this weekend.

Give her another date "at place X at WHATEVER time, WHATEVER day".

If she says no and still keeps it vague, she's trying to be in charge of things already.

If she says no and gives you a specific time/location then she was messing with you because otherwise she could have given you the specific time/location already and she was just waiting to see what you'd do.

In the latter case, I always drop it because she thinks I'm an idiot since she's very clearly and openly messing with me. Someone else can take that bullet.

 

[YouKnowI'mRight]

if a HB counter offers in her text to say 'how about late next week?'

and i haven't responded yet, but plan to this weekend.

Give her another date "at place X at WHATEVER time, WHATEVER day".

If she says no and still keeps it vague, she's trying to be in charge of things already. (that can be fine but I like women who know what they want so I usually pass)

If she says no and gives you a specific time/location then she was messing with you because otherwise she could have given you the specific time/location already and she was just waiting to see what you'd do.

In the latter case, I always drop it because she thinks I'm an idiot since she's very clearly and openly messing with me. Someone else can take that bullet.

 

[Aaron B]

the best reply to her counter offer is

"no, that's not going to work for me"

then counter her counter (have a time and place, or if you don't, just say "no, that won't work for me, maybe i'll give you a call sometime" then hang up the phone)

if she keeps trying to work things in her favor this early on, she's not flexible and you should backburner her and give that date invitation to another girl who may prove more deserving of your time and attention

since as men we are generally forced into the role of initiator who approaches, gets her number, then invites her on the date (and thus risks rejection), that gives us the power to decide when the date takes place, as well as the date activity.

don't let her "have her cake and eat it too" - where she lays back and waits for dudes to invite her on dates, then she changes the dates to suit her. in the passive role she shouldn't be given that level of consideration so early on

later on if she complies with your dates over a period of time, then you can ask for her ideas on date activities (after she's earned that consideration)

 

[pete101]

the best reply to her counter offer is

"no, that's not going to work for me"

then counter her counter (have a time and place, or if you don't, just say "no, that won't work for me, maybe i'll give you a call sometime" then hang up the phone)

if she keeps trying to work things in her favor this early on, she's not flexible and you should backburner her and give that date invitation to another girl who may prove more deserving of your time and attention

since as men we are generally forced into the role of initiator who approaches, gets her number, then invites her on the date (and thus risks rejection), that gives us the power to decide when the date takes place, as well as the date activity.

don't let her "have her cake and eat it too" - where she lays back and waits for dudes to invite her on dates, then she changes the dates to suit her. in the passive role she shouldn't be given that level of consideration so early on

later on if she complies with your dates over a period of time, then you can ask for her ideas on date activities (after she's earned that consideration)

Can i do this in a text?

reason being is that she responded with that in a text so the appropriate thing is to reply to the text.