"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jophil28 said:
Geez, now that you put it that way...

Perhaps it could also be said this way.. The loss of a boyfriend is judged to be less than the loss of a girlfriend even if that girlfriend just shafted her friend.

The sisterhood in action ?
Which goes to further support my theory that men are much more invested in most relationships, women get over a breakup more quickly, and men "grieve" for a longer period of time.

To women, men are expendable.

And replaceable in 2.3 seconds.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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STR8UP said:
Which goes to further support my theory that men are much more invested in most relationships, women get over a breakup more quickly, and men "grieve" for a longer period of time.
I agree with this. I think women fall more quickly, but men--once invested emotionally--have a much longer and harder 'grieving' period.
 

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STR8UP said:
When she finds a squeeze, she will squeeze you out. Firstly because she no longer has any use for you, secondly because people tend to gravitate away from friendships (even some same sex friendships) they get into a relationship, plus the issue of respect for their mate.

Nikki and I actually hung out this weekend and had this very discussion. I tried--nicely--to explain this to her, but she was in complete denial that she would do this if she were to get a bf.

In a sense I am very much her surrogate boyfriend. I am so sure of this I would bet 2 week's salary that when (not if) she does land a regular bf, her stance towards me will go from borderline needy to friendly ambivalence.

This might sound AFC on my part, but the difference is that 1) I do not want to sleep with her, 2) I do not have any ulterior desires of a romantic relationship, and 3) we share common interests and mostly have a fun time. It's a symbiotic friendship.

But, sometimes chick friends are a pain in the as$. Her jealousy is already starting to come out again now that she knows I'm dating a girl I like. She was all emotional this whole weekend because she thinks I am "abandoning her". I'm going to do my own thing for a couple of weeks and let her simmer down.
 

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Colossus said:
I think women fall more quickly
I have in the past, fallen for women rather quickly. AFC's will fall for women just as quick as a woman will fall for a guy. Come on, look around you in society, look at the forum. I think it's about equal in terms of who falls for who more.
 
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