"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What can I do to take control of the date?

kingman

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What can I do to take control of the date? ( be in the lead)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I usually tell her how I want her to dress(casual,dressy,cold) and just tell her to be ready for me to pick her up. And hype it up. Maybe even throw clues that does not have anything to do with the date your planning. And if she asks the clues had nothing to do with the date. Tell her that you changed your mind because this was better than the last plan.

Good luck bro. HAve Fun. Be REAL. And always go for the KISS(there is no perfect "time" just go for it) This is the structure I use everytime and the girls eat it up.

You: So your ready for saturday
Her: What are we doing?
You: Just make sure to wear a nice top and shoes(tell her heels, casual, etc)
Her: Where are we going?
You: Dont worry I got everything taken care of.
Her: Common tell me, I really want to know
you: okay, we are going to the circus and riding elephants(say something completely outrageous)
Her: Now she is really interested.
You: Change the subject.

The sub-context here is that you are completely leading her and she has to put trust in you and now she will go on a date with you just to find out what you have planned.
Just dont pull the: what do you want to do? because we can do whatever you want to do. This is ****ing DEATH.
 

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Thanks bro. Good advice, she was actually leading me on the last date ,and I dont like that. But I had no choice either, because it started with me inviting her, to she invited me on a date.
 

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always think two steps ahead of her bro, that's all. ask the questions you want her to talk about, like her ex-boyfriends. that way you will learn what kind of guys she is attracted to and will be able to demonstrate you're that kinda guy

if she says she has always been attracted to *******s, then you know you gotta start acting like a prick if you wanna hit that
 

trd323

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Metaphysical said:
always think two steps ahead of her bro, that's all. ask the questions you want her to talk about, like her ex-boyfriends. that way you will learn what kind of guys she is attracted to and will be able to demonstrate you're that kinda guy

if she says she has always been attracted to *******s, then you know you gotta start acting like a prick if you wanna hit that

Sorry bro. But this is not good. NEVER talk about past relationships on the first few dates. Women will always hold feelings for ex-boyfriends even if they were *******s. Also, Your the new and improved man in her life, so show her that you are better than her ex.

Also, Confident men never change their purpose to connect with a girl. Be YOUR OWN man.

DO NOt "think two steps ahead" if you are thinking two steps ahead means you are hearing her, but NOT LISTENING to her. You will miss a lot of info she is giving by trying to think ahead. ALWAYS BE IN THE MOMENT!!!!

Women are not attracted to *******s, they are attracted to their unreactive nature.

Again if you havent actually dated a few women please DO NOT give advice until you get more experience. I know you mean well, but every man that will see your post can tell that you got that off a pick up book. **** does not work bro.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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