What can I do at this VERY instant?

[DougMan]

I feel like in the times I'm most looking to improve, I'm stuck at home on my computer with no ways of socializing with girls. I guess I'm boiling this down to Facebook. I feel like the people I'm friends with on Facebook, for the most part, are just people I'm barely acquainted with but we're Facebook friends because we've been in school forever, work, etc. I'm 17. I need some advice on how to game from my house; I'd put hours of effort in but the effort has no where to go; therefore all my effort is going into reading and studying the art itself; all which is helpful, but its practice that makes perfect.

Maybe there is a broader picture I could be looking at rather than Facebook.

 

[2-D]

Use instant messaging. Very good for flirting with girls, because:

a) You have time to think of a reply
b) Easy to say more flirtatious things over instant messaging
c) If you are nervous in real life, she can't see that through an Instant Messager

However, just let yourself be a more centre of attention/captivating kind of guy and girls from school/work should naturally like you without you saying a word to them. The good thing about class/work is that if you have a girl in your school/workplace, it is almost guaranteed she will talk to you at some point, ESPECIALLY if you usually have a lot of attention from people. Now at the club, if you let her come to you first, then you will probably never speak to her.

 

[2-D]

^But if you're flirty on AIM then boring and nervous in person won't she notice that?

Well, that's just one of the things. If you are boring and nervous to the point where it becomes noticeable, then you just have to work on that somehow.

 

[Exhumed]

The title of this thread...yes, I used to have the same thought very often, still do sometimes. Usually at around 8 or 9 when all the girls are on facebook, or at 3 in the morning where there's nothing you can really do to improve. Honestly though, make sure that you fill your time up with interesting things--what do you want to pursue? You can use the spare time spent sitting on facebook, feeling horny, kind of wanting to message some girls but not wanting to at the same time--for something else. Just start living a productive, busy life, and create social opportunities whenever possible. Hang out with the friends of yours who chill with girls.

What can you do now? Set some goals, start a new hobby, maybe get in touch with someone who can connect you to girls and parties and whatnot.

Don't facebook message girls from your work or school that you've talked to once or twice; for some reason it barely transfers over to real life interaction, and if you try and work game on one of those girls she'll probably be creeped out and think "Why is he messaging me NOW? Why the hell doesn't he talk to me in person?"

I speak from experience; last semester I spent all my time chilling with the bros smoking pot. This semester I'm keeping to a strict gym schedule and diet, getting good grades, and hanging out with friends who like to go out and socialize. Life's a lot more fun, and while my game still needs some work, I'm getting the practice in, so my time isn't spent sitting on facebook wishing I could be out macking on babes.

 

[omega05]

The title of this thread...yes, I used to have the same thought very often, still do sometimes. Usually at around 8 or 9 when all the girls are on facebook, or at 3 in the morning where there's nothing you can really do to improve. Honestly though, make sure that you fill your time up with interesting things--what do you want to pursue? You can use the spare time spent sitting on facebook, feeling horny, kind of wanting to message some girls but not wanting to at the same time--for something else. Just start living a productive, busy life, and create social opportunities whenever possible. Hang out with the friends of yours who chill with girls.

What can you do now? Set some goals, start a new hobby, maybe get in touch with someone who can connect you to girls and parties and whatnot.

Don't facebook message girls from your work or school that you've talked to once or twice; for some reason it barely transfers over to real life interaction, and if you try and work game on one of those girls she'll probably be creeped out and think "Why is he messaging me NOW? Why the hell doesn't he talk to me in person?"
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i feel like this applies to me. i often spend time thinking "what can i do right now to make myself feel like more of a DJ?" im a college graduate who happens to still be in college town with my own apartment on the job hunt so i need things to keep busy