You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No no no. The alphas make the crazy’s act even more crazy because they trigger all the anxiety, insecurity, and fears in the crazy. So it can turn into a serious drama as the crazy tries to take the power and beta-ize the alpha. If he gets thrown off his frame then the crazy will be ready to move on. If he isn’t off his frame he’ll dump the b*tch. With a beta the crazy can do whatever she wants (without having to fear abandonment) so she can use him to meet some of her needs while also having needs met from other men. So the long term relationship for a crazy will be with the beta. And the quick super nutjob relationships would be with the alpha.
Screen harder. That said, good women are hard to find and they're all a little crazy, psychologically speaking. They're a few deviations higher in neuroticism (emotional stability) than men on the big five personality test.
This. Is. The. Only. Reason. The end.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This sounds about right imo.