Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No no no. The alphas make the crazy’s act even more crazy because they trigger all the anxiety, insecurity, and fears in the crazy. So it can turn into a serious drama as the crazy tries to take the power and beta-ize the alpha. If he gets thrown off his frame then the crazy will be ready to move on. If he isn’t off his frame he’ll dump the b*tch. With a beta the crazy can do whatever she wants (without having to fear abandonment) so she can use him to meet some of her needs while also having needs met from other men. So the long term relationship for a crazy will be with the beta. And the quick super nutjob relationships would be with the alpha.
Screen harder. That said, good women are hard to find and they're all a little crazy, psychologically speaking. They're a few deviations higher in neuroticism (emotional stability) than men on the big five personality test.
This. Is. The. Only. Reason. The end.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This sounds about right imo.