What are your thoughts?

[Fortunate_Juan]

Ok here's the rundown. I've been reading the DJB for a few weeks now. Unfortunately I am nowhere near DJ status (yet) and I have some questions. There was this girl who I had some rapport goin, (friend said she was lookin at my azz when she walked by and so anyways, I was actin like I was gonna walk off, and I asked her for her number, she was like "I have a BF" and gave me a lil smile, so I know i didnt come off as creepy. Now what I did do was get a big grin on my face and say "aw dang, i've been hacked" (wow yea im frikkin computer nerd) the way i said it was in a joking tone. This was kinda the first time i've been shot down too... So I know i didnt handle the rejection as good, at best it was neutral. But what could i have improved? Oh and I should act all nonchallant about everything right? So when I see her it's no big deal..? 'nother question, or more of a request, I'm having some trouble projecting the "you need to impress me" way to speak. Anyone have good examples of what's worked for em? I have been flirting with this one girl who comes to work, and I know she snowobards (so do i) and i told her one week I put her in charge of getting snow. We havent had snow so I've been saying that im dissappointed in her and she said she was sorry and that she'd try harder (usually gets her to flash the pearly whites ).. Is this the sorta stuff people are talking about when they say make them try to gain your approval?

 

[flexion_]

She has a BF - no matter what you did the situation would still have ended the way it did.

What is a "you need to impress me" way to speak?

 

[Futuristic]

Did mommy step away from the computer for a few minutes?

 

[Docs]

You're on the right track. She can't give you snow though, you are relying on C+F, totally alright though.

For someone to gain your approval, you give them a standard to aim for, or something to do for you. Basically, challange her to a race down the hill or something. If you win, you got some minor bragging right, if you lose..you bust on her for cheating and not playing fair and then set another standard. Do this a few times and once you know she's working for you, you can level out the standards and continue on.

 

[Fortunate_Juan]

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Cool thanks for the tips. What I meant by the "you need to impress me" way to speak was, what are some examples where you can sorta flip the chasing on some one, get her to try and impress you. Peeps on this site make it sound like it's the way you talk/act, but never end up goin in to great detail or not to the degree that I like. Just lookin for a deeper explanation to give me a lil more help. Oh and I know the one chick's not incharge of the snow, but I "put her in charge" so when it doesnt snow I can tease her for the lack of snow. But that challenging thing was a great idea, I'll have to try it out.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

First off, Good Job for trying

Now Do a SEARCH.

There are tons of lines for that situation.

And Men don’t flirt they show Interest by building a little rapport, ask the number, and if successful then call for a date.

Also I wouldn’t date or get involve with ANY COWORKERS. That can go oh so wrong.

Good Hunting!

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