Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What are your passions?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I have a one-track mind
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Meditation, Travel, Opera, Architecture/Design, High Fashion, Pop Art, Soviet Kitsch, Maximalism, Wine, and letting my beloved Vika learn from my successes and failures.
For the lover of all things Japanese...
http://www.style-arena.jp/index_e.htm
http://www.style-arena.jp/harajuku/2006/05/e_w1.htm
A brilliant example of what I have come to expect from the genius that is Japan. The Japanese are the leaders in what we like to call, "Street Style". I would say that that Italians are a very distant second in the this area of fashion.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You remind me of so many kids I know...PumpNightmare said:
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But other than woman, I really only have one passion in life.
Boxing! Reading it, watching it, doing it, and debating it! Everything to do with boxing!
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i like being with my friends .. watching movies with them.. playing cricket ...
whatever I do I want my group to be around ...
i love myself by reading good books.. browsing ..comparing electronic gadgets and then intentionally telling my friends about things learnt ... reading books that may make me read them..without getting bored .. these books ned not be good knowledge-giving books.. just simple time pass ones..
downloading songs and listening to them...
by eating out at good places with friends...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
As for me, fishing, working out, hunting, hanging out with friends, trying to decide what I want out of life, etc.
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I'm into psychology/studying dreams etc.
And as I just mentioned in another post I want to get into making my own trance music... I don't want to be DJing parties, I'm into the really deep, dreamy stuff
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.