"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What are your passion(s) in life?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
-skiing
-reading philosophy, science, and other interesting stuff for pleasure
-drawing and painting
-exploring exotic countries
-used to do some scuba diving, that was alot of fun
-used to fly airplanes, also alot of fun
-sea kayaking
-hot babes (that is still a wannabe hobby unfortunately)
-exploring the great outdoors, and taking pictures of it which I already mentioned
-armchair futurist(I think all futurists are armchair futurists)
-I actually like to cook, in fact I went to a meetup dot com gourmet potluck tonight in which I cooked stuff.
Jerry Maguire
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Whenever I'm not at University or work, I'm with my girl, and when I'm not with her, I'm relaxing; surfing internet, KBJing, playing Halo 3, it sucks.
I borrowed my girl's bass guitar so I'm going to start playing that, I used to love playing football (soccer) and I'd love to play regularly again, I'd like to do some Muay Thai again or start Jiu Jitsu and I'd like to be learn how to be sociable
Thing is, I don't get as much sleep as I need because I'm always up late surfing teh internutz so I'm too tired and lethargic to even think about doing something active
Vicious cycle.
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fitness
languages
travel
good food
skyscrapers (especially with all those ones going up in Dubai)
investing
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.