"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What are your passion(s) in life?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
-skiing
-reading philosophy, science, and other interesting stuff for pleasure
-drawing and painting
-exploring exotic countries
-used to do some scuba diving, that was alot of fun
-used to fly airplanes, also alot of fun
-sea kayaking
-hot babes (that is still a wannabe hobby unfortunately)
-exploring the great outdoors, and taking pictures of it which I already mentioned
-armchair futurist(I think all futurists are armchair futurists)
-I actually like to cook, in fact I went to a meetup dot com gourmet potluck tonight in which I cooked stuff.
Jerry Maguire
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Whenever I'm not at University or work, I'm with my girl, and when I'm not with her, I'm relaxing; surfing internet, KBJing, playing Halo 3, it sucks.
I borrowed my girl's bass guitar so I'm going to start playing that, I used to love playing football (soccer) and I'd love to play regularly again, I'd like to do some Muay Thai again or start Jiu Jitsu and I'd like to be learn how to be sociable
Thing is, I don't get as much sleep as I need because I'm always up late surfing teh internutz so I'm too tired and lethargic to even think about doing something active
Vicious cycle.
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fitness
languages
travel
good food
skyscrapers (especially with all those ones going up in Dubai)
investing
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.