"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What are your "off limits" territory?

ENIGMA16

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Outside from dating girls at work, do you have any other "off limits" areas where you refuse to pursue women?

The only one I can think of is that my hairstylist is pretty cute, and we've known each other for a while, and I think I could hit it if I wanted, but I'm so picky about my hair that I don't want to f*ck up what I've got going right now. :)

Other than that, that's all I've got. Anyone else?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OFWHAP

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Probably shouldn't go after your friend's ex until a reasonable amount of time has passed.
 

Upside

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I tend to avoid girls who are in the same social circle as me. I've seen entire groups of friends split up and take sides because one couple decided to date within the circle and break up. That **** isn't for me. Most of the girls I have dated, I was introduced to by a friend who isn't around much, at parties, or just random approaches at coffee shops or whatever.

Basically, I'll ask for a chicks number and date her if there are really good odds I would never see her again otherwise if I don't get the number.
 

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5string said:
Women who are married, and women who have boyfriends.
Which is the vast majority of women BTW, and even the fatties and the uglies can fall in this category.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scars

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Fat, ugly, under 18, immature, annoying.

Taken girls don't bother me. That's actually my forte.
 

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Bad hygeine, fat, obvious whackjobs, drug addicts (partying is OK to an extent, but Tweakers are a NO) and hardcore alcoholics. I can deal with some, if its just a fvck, but hygeine and weight standards are mandatory.
 

pinhas

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No ex's of friends!
 

kingsam

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uneducated, dumb girls are obv a no-no for anything serious, but for casual dont matter ...
 

PRMoon

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Strip clubs. I haven't had a single good experience dating strippers in my life.
I don't date single mom's either. Oh they may say they're not looking for a baby's daddy when it starts but two dates in, they're waiting for the ring.

I'd smash either if the opportunity arose, but I'd do that to girls at my job if there was a low risk of seeing them repeatedly. But I won't date or purse any of the above.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kailex

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Well, let's see...

For me now, they have to be over a certain age, not JUST 18+. I'd say more or less 24 to 25.

No drugs. Smoking is a preferred NO NO, unless it's just socially.

No ex's of my GOOD friends.

Hygiene. I'm kinda picky, but I actually was seeing a girl once that said she didn't shower everyday and that was SUCH a huge turn-off for me. Maybe it's just me, but if I can find time to shower everyday, why can't everyone else? She actually said: Well, it's not like I'm sweating.

UGH.

I'd really hate to have gone down there on an off-day from a shower. Gross.
 

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Morgue and mortuary. Those girls are too cold.





actually no 18+ clubs, I am older now and can't deal with under 23 girls who still think their pus$y is made of gold.

no girls from particular town was once for me - every chick i met from there was nuts.
 

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Amazing said:
Morgue and mortuary. Those girls are too cold.





actually no 18+ clubs, I am older now and can't deal with under 23 girls who still think their pus$y is made of gold.

no girls from particular town was once for me - every chick i met from there was nuts.
I know how you feel about these ATL chicks. Most of them are shallow and materialistic!
 
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