"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What are your date ideas?

sharkbeat

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Recently I have been sarging more than I used to, and I would bag home close to 10 numbers after a sarge. Here's the problem, I forget to follow up with more than half of those. Only remembered a few weeks after, which of course they had forgotten.

Then I started thinking that even if I had followed up, I would have no clue where else to take them. Dating one or two girls and my own life are enough to fill my weeks. Another 8 would definitely make this a full time job costing me even more money. But I can't seem to bear the thought of passing some of these up.

Anyway, other than the standard mall/movies/park/bars/local events, what are the places you'd take your new leads to?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Who Dares Win

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I quitted dating yrs ago due to the cost benefit ratio.

Instead why dont you just do your stuff and invite them to join?

Less hassle to plan, less hassle to think and even if they flake there is no damage cause you were supposed to be there anyway.

I usually go to the bar area of the city Im in that moment and let them know it in advance than once there I simply drop a text to arrange it in short term.

She doesnt reply? zero fvcks given there was no investment anyway.

Bonus if she was already out and tipsy, you save time and money.
 

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There is a pool hall near me that has a bar and plays good music. My favourite. A beer, a game of pool and a woman to chat up. What more could I ask for...
 

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A good and cheap balls out one i have used early on is take them to an adult bookstore. Good for showing them you have a sexual side pre making any moves. You can gage how they react. Shows them you are no holds barred outgoing and fun and original. Make some jokes on how you are a star in some of the magiznes on the shelf but ooops cant find it cuz its sold out. And if it really goes well you may end up having sex in the movie booth. I once had date #2 lay # 1 that very way after a few drinks at a bar first. good times
 

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I never get creative or bend over backwards planning dates. I invite them to drink with me on date #1. From there I'll surmise my chances of getting laid and will often offer to pick them up for dinner for date #2 to test their sexual comfort level. If they decline ny offer to pick them up, I'll likely stop contacting them and focus on other chicks.

In my mind, a high-value man doesn't spend a lot of time planning dates in the early courtship phase. Drinks at a local watering hole is absolutely fine. I strongly encourage guys to keep those first 1-2 dates simple, fun, local, and cheap.
Agree.

In fact, the key is to live an interesting life full of fun activities, events and social life. Then simply invite her to something you're already going to attend yourself....

....of course you could just skip all that prelude and invite her over to share a bottle of red. She wouldn't have you drinking it on your own, would she .....
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Atom Smasher

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For me, it's all about action dates.

Disk golf, hiking, mini golf, antique shops (lots of opportunity to be humorous there), beach if available or any waterside activity, outdoor fairs, markets, swings at the park (they all find that incredibly romantic).
 

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I am big on dives and action dates...

Both can be cheap and keeps her moving around

And if it is a movie... make sure it is on your couch!
 
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Start taking notes of who you took where. I always take them for a walk or something initially, because it's free. Drinks are next, then maybe dinner if they're worthy.

My ex was a walk in the park for the first date, followed by dinner.
 
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