What are your boundaries with a FWB?

[jhonny9546]

that girl

how did you know the difference between this and oneitis?

 

[The Duke]

how did you know the difference between this and oneitis?

Bang as many girls as it takes to understand that none are special, and there will only be a few that are worthy of commitment. Some guys might go thru 10 girls, others will have to go thru 30 girls to learn.

 

[CornbreadFed]

how did you know the difference between this and oneitis?

Scarcity Oneitis- Basically a FOMO lonliness type oneitis where you are more obsessed with having sex or something lined up then actually liking the person. This usually happens with novices-intermediate level guys, but it can sneak up on you during a vulnerable period of your life. You will forget this girl like a McDouble meal you had after a night of drinking.

That Girl Oneitis- You legit feel sick when you are not around this girl. Deep down, you know this girl could command you to bark and you would happily do it. When you aren’t with this girl, you are obsessed that she is with another guy while you really don’t care as much regarding the scarcity oneitis. If you can relate to the song Mr. Brightside then you are on this type of oneitis. Every guy has a particular type of woman that is their kryptonite so this can happen to anyone. These women have the potential to ruin your life and will always be superior to you mentally, so I wouldn’t advise going further with these women. My weakness for some reason is semi-nerdy, in the closet insecurity ,cute, skinny, bubbly, and flat chested white women

 

[soulforge]

Men catch feelings more than we often think men catch feelings.

Many men catch feelings due to their scarcity. The men who don't have scarcity are the top tier men and those are the men not catching feelings.

I can imagine a mid-tier childless man having sex with a single mom, having nearly no other options, and catching feelings for her.

This.. dudes catching feelings is extremely common. Many many relationships start off as FWB, however having sex with a female on a regular basis, months and years, without a doubt can generate feelings in both parties.

Sex is a bonding exercise.

 

[Barrister]

This.. dudes catching feelings is extremely common. Many many relationships start off as FWB, however having sex with a female on a regular basis, months and years, without a doubt can generate feelings in both parties.

Sex is a bonding exercise.

If you’re banging only one chick, you are going to develop feelings. I’d say it’s almost unavoidable if she’s the only one (unless she is legit well below your standards) and if you want to avoid it you should hold off until you have a rotation of at least 2 in the fold.

 

[jhonny9546]

Scarcity Oneitis - Basically a loneliness FOMO type oneitis where you are more obsessed with having sex or something than actually pleasing the person. This usually happens with beginner-intermediate level guys, but it can sneak up on you during a vulnerable time in your life. You will forget about this girl like a McDouble meal after a night of drinking.

That Girl Oneitis - You feel really bad when you are not with this girl. Deep down, you know that this girl could command you to bark and you would happily do so. When you are not with this girl, you are obsessed with the fact that she is with another guy while you really don't care much about the scarcity oneitis. If you can relate to the song Mr. Brightside then you are on this type of oneitis. Every guy has a certain type of woman that is his kryptonite, so this can happen to anyone. These women have the potential to ruin your life and will always be superior to you mentally, so I wouldn't recommend going further with these women. My weakness for some reason is semi-nerdy, insecure closet, cute, skinny, perky, flat chested white women

You really nailed it! Now would you describe what a healthy relationship feels like?

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

The thread reflects harmful attitudes towards women, especially single mothers, and promotes the objectification of women. From a legal and gender-based violence perspective, these harmful views contribute to inequality and violence against women. The disrespect for single mothers, seen in the responses, comes from outdated societal beliefs that judge women unfairly based on their relationship status. This negative stereotyping makes life harder for single mothers, limiting their access to support, resources, and protection from violence.

Single mothers deserve dignity and respect, regardless of their relationship status. The law must recognize that single mothers face unique challenges, many of which are linked to discrimination and limited access to resources. For example, family law doesn't always support single mothers adequately, which can leave them vulnerable to financial instability or domestic violence. Legal protections should specifically address these challenges by providing support for single mothers facing gender-based violence. The harmful language in the thread ignores these realities and fails to see single mothers for who they are: strong, capable individuals.

The objectification of women is another major issue in the thread, reducing women to their physical appearance or sexual function. This harms their autonomy and dignity, and can lead to violence against women. Objectification normalizes behaviors like sexual harassment and assault, which are forms of gender-based violence. Legal protections must address these behaviors, helping prevent violence before it starts. Legal systems need to understand that objectification is often a precursor to more serious violence and needs to be addressed in gender-based violence laws.

The attitudes shown in the thread also reflect a bigger problem in society. Legal reforms and advocacy must challenge harmful cultural norms. The law plays an important role in changing how society views and treats women. Legal professionals need to focus on preventing violence by tackling attitudes that allow objectification and disrespect of women. Public education and legal protections should work together to create a society where women are respected and their rights are fully protected.

To create a more equitable society, we need laws that protect and empower women, especially single mothers, and that challenge the objectification and violence they face. This requires changes to the law, public policy, and social attitudes. The thread highlights why it's so important to fight against the disrespect for single mothers and the objectification of women. Legal advocates need to push for a world where women are safe, respected, and free from violence and discrimination.

 

[Clockwerk50]

The thread reflects harmful attitudes towards women, especially single mothers, and promotes the objectification of women. From a legal and gender-based violence perspective, these harmful views contribute to inequality and violence against women. The disrespect for single mothers, seen in the responses, comes from outdated societal beliefs that judge women unfairly based on their relationship status. This negative stereotyping makes life harder for single mothers, limiting their access to support, resources, and protection from violence.

Single mothers deserve dignity and respect, regardless of their relationship status. The law must recognize that single mothers face unique challenges, many of which are linked to discrimination and limited access to resources. For example, family law doesn't always support single mothers adequately, which can leave them vulnerable to financial instability or domestic violence. Legal protections should specifically address these challenges by providing support for single mothers facing gender-based violence. The harmful language in the thread ignores these realities and fails to see single mothers for who they are: strong, capable individuals.

The objectification of women is another major issue in the thread, reducing women to their physical appearance or sexual function. This harms their autonomy and dignity, and can lead to violence against women. Objectification normalizes behaviors like sexual harassment and assault, which are forms of gender-based violence. Legal protections must address these behaviors, helping prevent violence before it starts. Legal systems need to understand that objectification is often a precursor to more serious violence and needs to be addressed in gender-based violence laws.

The attitudes shown in the thread also reflect a bigger problem in society. Legal reforms and advocacy must challenge harmful cultural norms. The law plays an important role in changing how society views and treats women. Legal professionals need to focus on preventing violence by tackling attitudes that allow objectification and disrespect of women. Public education and legal protections should work together to create a society where women are respected and their rights are fully protected.

To create a more equitable society, we need laws that protect and empower women, especially single mothers, and that challenge the objectification and violence they face. This requires changes to the law, public policy, and social attitudes. The thread highlights why it's so important to fight against the disrespect for single mothers and the objectification of women. Legal advocates need to push for a world where women are safe, respected, and free from violence and discrimination.

You’re contradicting yourself. On one hand, you call single mothers “strong, capable individuals,” but on the other, you describe them as vulnerable, in need of special legal protections, and victims of societal bias.

In the game of dating, we’re all equal, everyone brings their own cards to the table. We all have seduction powers; some know how to use them, others don’t. Being a single mother doesn’t entitle someone to be above criticism or exempt from personal preferences. Just like any other group, they can be liked or disliked, that’s part of being in the dating pool. If someone chooses not to date single mothers, that’s their right. It doesn’t make them misogynistic or violentit just means they have a preference, which is perfectly valid. Forcing attraction or shaming people for their choices does more harm than good, and ironically, strips away the very agency and strength you’re trying to defend.

To be honest, it feels like there’s a loose screw in your argument. Labeling the forum as spiteful and violent toward women, when many of us here genuinely love and respect women, just shows you don’t understand what this space is about. Maybe take the time to sit down and learn, maybe learn how the dating game works, or take that victimhood-fueled ideology somewhere else. The funny thing is that it is your very own mindset that ends up undermining the strength and capability of women you claim to promote.

Not sure how much you are getting laid with this argumentative frame of mind :/

 

[zekko]

the guy would call me every day of the week to go to some sort of event and often I would find myself tagging along to stuff for the sake of it

Eventually It all became empty It was pointless and I was paying a massive price in lost time and energy

It wasn't completely pointless. It made you realize such things were a waste of time.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

None.

 

[BadBoy89]

So you meet a girl, she is attractive and the sex is through the roof.

However too many red flags & likely no Long term compatibility (single mom)

Stopped reading here.

Men who ask single mom questions should be sent to El Salvador prisons.

 

[The Duke]

The thread reflects harmful attitudes towards women, especially single mothers, and promotes the objectification of women. From a legal and gender-based violence perspective, these harmful views contribute to inequality and violence against women. The disrespect for single mothers, seen in the responses, comes from outdated societal beliefs that judge women unfairly based on their relationship status. This negative stereotyping makes life harder for single mothers, limiting their access to support, resources, and protection from violence.

Single mothers deserve dignity and respect, regardless of their relationship status. The law must recognize that single mothers face unique challenges, many of which are linked to discrimination and limited access to resources. For example, family law doesn't always support single mothers adequately, which can leave them vulnerable to financial instability or domestic violence. Legal protections should specifically address these challenges by providing support for single mothers facing gender-based violence. The harmful language in the thread ignores these realities and fails to see single mothers for who they are: strong, capable individuals.

The objectification of women is another major issue in the thread, reducing women to their physical appearance or sexual function. This harms their autonomy and dignity, and can lead to violence against women. Objectification normalizes behaviors like sexual harassment and assault, which are forms of gender-based violence. Legal protections must address these behaviors, helping prevent violence before it starts. Legal systems need to understand that objectification is often a precursor to more serious violence and needs to be addressed in gender-based violence laws.

The attitudes shown in the thread also reflect a bigger problem in society. Legal reforms and advocacy must challenge harmful cultural norms. The law plays an important role in changing how society views and treats women. Legal professionals need to focus on preventing violence by tackling attitudes that allow objectification and disrespect of women. Public education and legal protections should work together to create a society where women are respected and their rights are fully protected.

To create a more equitable society, we need laws that protect and empower women, especially single mothers, and that challenge the objectification and violence they face. This requires changes to the law, public policy, and social attitudes. The thread highlights why it's so important to fight against the disrespect for single mothers and the objectification of women. Legal advocates need to push for a world where women are safe, respected, and free from violence and discrimination.

You sound like a feminine chat bot planted here to push an agenda or an extreme beta male that doesn't understand women.

I'm not buying the schitt you're selling.

Something isn't right.

 

[BaronOfHair]

However too many red flags...

Where do you guys draw the line...

When she's practically tattooing the words "Bail out, Will Robinson" on your forehead, without even being prompted

 

[BaronOfHair]

Single mothers deserve dignity and respect, regardless of their relationship status

Which they get plenty of from The US government, who hands them paychecks and WIC, in exchange for spreading their legs for every Laquan, Jeb, or Juan who walks by

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

You’re contradicting yourself. On one hand, you call single mothers “strong, capable individuals,” but on the other, you describe them as vulnerable, in need of special legal protections, and victims of societal bias.

In the game of dating, we’re all equal, everyone brings their own cards to the table. We all have seduction powers; some know how to use them, others don’t. Being a single mother doesn’t entitle someone to be above criticism or exempt from personal preferences. Just like any other group, they can be liked or disliked, that’s part of being in the dating pool. If someone chooses not to date single mothers, that’s their right. It doesn’t make them misogynistic or violentit just means they have a preference, which is perfectly valid. Forcing attraction or shaming people for their choices does more harm than good, and ironically, strips away the very agency and strength you’re trying to defend.

To be honest, it feels like there’s a loose screw in your argument. Labeling the forum as spiteful and violent toward women, when many of us here genuinely love and respect women, just shows you don’t understand what this space is about. Maybe take the time to sit down and learn, maybe learn how the dating game works, or take that victimhood-fueled ideology somewhere else. The funny thing is that it is your very own mindset that ends up undermining the strength and capability of women you claim to promote.

Not sure how much you are getting laid with this argumentative frame of mind :/

You accuse me of contradicting myself, yet ignore that strength and vulnerability can and do coexist. Single mothers battle wage gaps, childcare deserts, and stigma; calling for legal protections isn’t whining, it’s demanding equal rights. Dismissing them as “damaged” isn’t a preference, it’s bigotry. Protecting their agency isn’t entitlement, it’s basic justice.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

You sound like a feminine chat bot planted here to push an agenda or an extreme beta male that doesn't understand women.

I'm not buying the schitt you're selling.

Something isn't right.

You don’t have to “buy” anything. Basic respect for women isn’t up for sale. Calling out misogyny and harmful stereotypes doesn’t make someone a bot, it makes them informed. If you find dignity, equality, and protection from violence suspicious, that says more about your worldview than mine.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Which they get plenty of from The US government, who hands them paychecks and WIC, in exchange for spreading their legs for every Laquan, Jeb, or Juan who walks by

That comment isn’t just disrespectful. It’s blatantly racist, misogynistic, and dehumanizing. Reducing women to crude stereotypes and slurs doesn’t make you bold or clever. It exposes a worldview rooted in hate, ignorance, and fear, one that contributes to real-world violence and inequality. If the goal is honest dialogue, start by speaking with decency.

 

[The Duke]

You don’t have to “buy” anything. Basic respect for women isn’t up for sale. Calling out misogyny and harmful stereotypes doesn’t make someone a bot, it makes them informed. If you find dignity, equality, and protection from violence suspicious, that says more about your worldview than mine.

You woke social justice warrior lefties all have the same M.O. There is no getting thru to you, no middle ground, and everyone else that doesn't think like you do is evil. But you have come here to spread your propaganda and tell an entire forum that they are misogynystic, racists and treat women poorly.

In the thread you started here you claimed we all need a therapist.

You Don’t Need a Wingman, You Need a Therapist

This forum has become a place where you treat women like prizes instead of real people. You run the same scripted lines and treat dating like shopping, ticking boxes instead of making a real connection. You think more reps make you better, but you ignore respect and consent. You chase a number...

www.sosuave.net

Here you are hurling insults at another forum member for his views because they don't align with yours.

That comment isn’t just disrespectful. It’s blatantly racist, misogynistic, and dehumanizing. Reducing women to crude stereotypes and slurs doesn’t make you bold or clever. It exposes a worldview rooted in hate, ignorance, and fear, one that contributes to real-world violence and inequality. If the goal is honest dialogue, start by speaking with decency.

Listen, you have nothing to offer this forum. Your views are not welcome here. All you do is argue with everyone. Its not constructive. You need to leave immediately.

You have already violated this Forum Rule several times:

• If you insult, harass, or disrespect any member of this forum, you will be banned from the forum.

@Serenity

 

[CornbreadFed]

On second thought, you shouldn’t need boundaries with a FWB

 

[Serenity]

You woke social justice warrior lefties all have the same M.O. There is no getting thru to you, no middle ground, and everyone else that doesn't think like you do is evil. But you have come here to spread your propaganda and tell an entire forum that they are misogynystic, racists and treat women poorly.

In the thread you started here you claimed we all need a therapist.

You Don’t Need a Wingman, You Need a Therapist

This forum has become a place where you treat women like prizes instead of real people. You run the same scripted lines and treat dating like shopping, ticking boxes instead of making a real connection. You think more reps make you better, but you ignore respect and consent. You chase a number...

www.sosuave.net

Here you are hurling insults at another forum member for his views because they don't align with yours.


Listen, you have nothing to offer this forum. Your views are not welcome here. All you do is argue with everyone. Its not constructive. You need to leave immediately.

You have already violated this Forum Rule several times:

• If you insult, harass, or disrespect any member of this forum, you will be banned from the forum.

@Serenity

Alright, since you summoned me I will comment on it.

My personal opinion which may not reflect the opinions of other moderators, is that the member in question is attacking views moreso than personally attacking other members on this forum. Very obviously this member and most members on this forum are very far apart in terms of views on things, but so far I think this member is trying very hard to avoid bringing discussions down to a personal level.

Is it provoking? Yes, but I personally do not see how the posts made by this member are insulting, harassing or disrespectful outside of being perceived as such merely because of a difference in opinion. Without allowing provocation I will argue that this isn't a discussion forum, it's an echo chamber.

The hardest thing I do in trying to be a fair moderator is to judge the discourse itself without taking any side in whatever topic is discussed. I'm very attentive of exactly what an argument is directed at and this member isn't directing arguments at any person in particular, just specific views or the general views that seemingly many on this forum share.

Who specifically is being insulted, harassed or disrespected? Who specifically is this member attacking on a personal level? I fail to find the answers to those critical questions in the posts I've read. To me it seems this member is treading very carefully to avoid doing exactly such things while still expressing very unpopular opinions.

I also think that if you're arguing with someone and it has become clear there's nothing that's going to change your opponent's mind, then the logical thing to do is to simply disengage from the discussion once your side of the argument is fully expressed. Whoever else comes later to read it can make up their own minds based on the arguments presented.

What you're asking me to do here, as I see it, is to be biased. If we're really going down that path it leads to the rules being completely arbitrary as it's a matter of who I personally agree with, leading to bannings of whoever disagrees with whatever my opinion is.

I don't think the owner intends his forum to operate in a manner where the moderators decide which opinions and views are ok and which are not. I don't want to deal with that as a moderator because there's a lot of cases with multiple or even no right answers. I wouldn't want to be a member on a forum with moderators who operates at that level of unpredictability and I doubt most people would.

Again, these are my personal views and do not necessarily reflect the views of any other moderators.