What Are Your Biggest Sticking Points in the Field?

[Social Calibration]

Hey DJs,

I was curious to see what are your biggest sticking points while in the field and what areas you would like the most improvement on.

If you decide the "other" option, please post and indicate what it is.

Be aware that you CAN choose more then one.

SoCal

 

[schttrj]

oh i didnt see that u can choose multiple options too.

i think most of fvck up with maintaining attraction and keep connection too.

 

[lordson]

you can select multiple ones. i think i'm good at everything excpet for opening and approching

 

[Social Calibration]

I think that tend's to be the vast majority's sticking point, opening and approaching, especially during day-game. In a club / night scene it is much much easier to open.

 

[wjh]

Other.

Inner-game. Conquering myself.

 

[schttrj]

Sure, approaching in teh right way and opening is a big prob, at least with me or else I should not have been in this site now since I have got a pretty solid game and more or less, got every girl coming across me falling for me.

 

[Snow Plowman]

My sticking points are...

A. Not coming off as genuine
B. Not opening up to the chick

It's a big bitvh when chicks think that your approach was just a big joke or some little test in my own emotionless world. Then you have the others who think there not worthy, because they can't connect with me because I'm holding in my emotions...

...which is actually an old bad habit from back in my chode days...you can even tell in my laughter that I used to hold in all my emotions because even my laugh sounds fake...

...which in a sense is unique and peacocking...

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

I have to work on maintaining relationship . I also have to work for creating rapport and connection . On other aspects , i think im OK . Approaching , building attraction its easy with some C+F and NEGS and DHV

 

[Social Calibration]

Awesome guys, keep this poll going because I'm going to have a treat for all of you.

The reason I'm doing this is because I really want to help you guys out, find out your biggest sticking point and help you overcome them.

Stay tuned, and if you haven't voted yet please vote and discuss what's your biggest problem when it comes to women.

Thanks,
SoCal

 

[Luke Skywalker]

At first I selected all the options above because I think I'm just clueless, but then when I think of it, I think basically I lack motivation. My libido is very low, I tend to be on the internet most of the time looking at documentaries on youtube on UFOs and whatnot, or I'm engaged with trying to make the next deal, or spiritual concerns, there's not much concern about game or improving game until I see some other guy pulling a girl that would seem like pulling teeth and getting nowhere if I were to do the same thing, then that kicks me to be motivated because it looks like something is missing when that happens. I do have an agenda or purpose in my life with respect to finding the right woman or making nice connections, but at best, they are very weak.

 

[Social Calibration]

I understand how you feel Luke, I don't think it's your libido, I think that your frame of mind is mature enough to understand that women are plentiful in this world. If you don't get a specific girl it's not going to kill you. You're going to brush it off because you already know your options are limitless.

You're more attuned to yourself and I believe you have a mindset that you're the challenge, not the girl. Maybe subconsciously, but it's there because you seem happy with yourself and that's all that matters to you.

 

[Social Calibration]

Seems like opening and closing are the 2 biggest ones. The in-between isn't all that hard for most of you probably... unless you're lying to yourself!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I like this survey. I could roll into possible topics for the Sunday chat session.

 

[Social Calibration]

Ditto Francisco, part of the reason why I wanted to create this. This forum has a extensive amount of members so I was curious to see what's everyones biggest obstacle and help to overcome it.

 

[Social Calibration]

Bump fools, vote if you haven't

 

[ProDJ26]

gotta say hi or something of that nature first. Then bust her balls either on her looks are outfit. From there it's finding something in common and builiding that connection. After that 7/10 I bounced without even asking for the number. Why? Well part of the reason that this town is so freakin small I'll see her again or she'll see me. I usually don't bother for the number if she's below an eight.

(I know I have high standards and NO I DON'T ALWAYS GET 9'S AND 10'S)

Everybody's different but thats my style

 

[Social Calibration]

Hey hey! Please, all new and old members participate in this poll!

 

[PRMoon]

How does "Maintaining a reltionship" make it to a feild strength poll? I excell at all of the listed skills with the exception of that one and my field presance is profound at worst. At this stage in my game, I can hontestly say that field work, isn't even work anymore. With 100 percent certianty, I can say that staying in touch with people or getting a steady girlfriend has little or nothing to do with your positioning when you're playing the field.