"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What are you working as?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"I'm a garbage man, it doesn't pay very well but I find alot of cool stuff, infact thats where I got these shoes."What are you working as?
She will look up and down from head to toe and notice your stylish clothes, good body and nice shoes.
Doesn't work all the time, but a good C&F and gets a good laugh with a non-snobby chick.
I'll give you an example of a question that seemed to come up back when I was dealing with lower quality (mindset, not physical); durring the initial part of the conversation I would get "so what kind of car do you drive/have" . I would respond with something along the lines of "oh you're one of those" or "I didn't pick up on that when we met initially" and if they didn't get their mind right and at least apologize-I would have nothing more to do with them. Even if they apologized it'd be something to only keep in the event I had nothing better do and "the relationship"-lol would always be extremely short term. You do not want a female like that around you, it's not a matter of buying them things, they will talk about things mostly of monetary value and somebody like that is like listening to nails on a chalkboard.
afc_2_dj
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1. look around and open my arms (as if to encompass everything) and very theatricly say, "THIS!"
Or...
2. Say, "I'm pretty much a bum. I just kind of...you know...hang out."
This works because I'm 23 and I own a nice place, drive a nice car, and have nice things (clothes/possesions). If you are really a bum or loser then it really wouldn't work.
Then I'll carry on the conversation in a different direction.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"I´m working as a movie producer. My latest movie is about a nice, rich guy who is about to lose all his money because of a gold digging woman."What are you working as?
I don´t pay attention to cars. Most of the time I´m hanging out in the backseats anyways...what car do you drive
I hate gold-diggers too and the reality is once they ask something like that, I'm already turned off. Anyhow, I'd like to respond and bust on them, since an indifferent silence could be perceived as many other things.
donjuanjovi
Senior Don Juan
You: "Oh, I'm retired. I invented dice when I was a kid"
It's from the movie kiss kiss bang bang.