"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What are you habits?
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
tj
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HandyAndy said:
I am triing to learn and speed read. However, one of the steps is to quit going back and re-reading the previous paragraph.
I find that very difficult because I love reading history, and sometimes there is often a nugget that I find interesting and like re-reading it over and over.
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I'm the same or flipping coin between fingers.HandyAndy said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ingeniarius
Don Juan
Olives, Tuna, Mozzarella, Gummy Bears, Coke Cans, dried fruit or
Wine, whiskey, water, martinis, apple juice.
Or I sleep in class.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
WC2
Master Don Juan
Ouch.. back a few years ago I used to down 2 - 3 cokes a day. Drinking water and green tea instead has done wonders for my body and mind. Get off that stuff it's horrible!EricInTheHouse said:
In Motion
Senior Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Ingeniarius
Don Juan
Trinitron said:
Yeah me too ... I forgot to mention it.
Any good ideas on how to quit, anybody? I think all nail-biters are desperate to quit in secret.
In Motion
Senior Don Juan
Hook up electric nodes to your nipples, when you chew your nails, you shock yourself.Ingeniarius said:
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
randomly
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In Motion
Senior Don Juan
Haha really? I do that too!HandyAndy said: